Thuhet se pajisja m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb tryeza e familjes. Edmund Barbotin e quan at\u00eb “… furnizimi social. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb bashkimi i familjes. Duke u ulur rreth e rrotull saj, ajo na bashkon t\u00eb gjith\u00eb. Pik\u00ebrisht q\u00eb nga tryeza, familja shp\u00ebrndahet dhe bashkohet \u00e7do dit\u00eb”. Sido q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, e pasur ose e varf\u00ebr, tryeza \u00ebsht\u00eb thesari i sht\u00ebpis\u00eb. Mbledhja rreth tryez\u00ebs p\u00ebr \u00e7do vakt shihet si kungim p\u00ebrmes ndarjes s\u00eb ushqimit, p\u00ebrmes bashk\u00ebbisedimeve dhe lutjeve tona. T\u00eb kremtet m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha fetare t\u00eb Dhiat\u00ebs s\u00eb Vjet\u00ebr festoheshin dhe vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb festohen edhe sot nga judenjt\u00eb, rreth tryez\u00ebs s\u00eb familjes. Shpesh harrojm\u00eb se ne t\u00eb krishter\u00ebt orthodhoks\u00eb kemi dal\u00eb nga Dhiata e Vjet\u00ebr. Rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt tona i kemi atje.<\/p>\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb e nevojshme t\u00eb rivendosim praktik\u00ebn e kremtimit t\u00eb festave t\u00eb m\u00ebdha kishtare rreth tryez\u00ebs s\u00eb familjes n\u00eb sht\u00ebpit\u00eb tona. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, ato p\u00ebrjetohen dhe b\u00ebhen t\u00eb paz\u00ebvend\u00ebsueshme p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb. Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti, n\u00eb nj\u00eb predikim t\u00eb tij, i udh\u00ebzon burrat p\u00ebr sa i p\u00ebrket vaktit t\u00eb ngr\u00ebnies n\u00eb familje: “Pasi t\u00eb ken\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb, ata duhet t\u00eb ngrihen me grat\u00eb e tyre dhe me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e t\u00eb k\u00ebndojn\u00eb himne s\u00eb bashku. Gjith\u00e7ka duhet t\u00eb mbyllet me nj\u00eb lutje…”. Disa familje vendosin nj\u00eb ikon\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl t\u00eb Jisuit n\u00eb tryez\u00ebn e dark\u00ebs, me nj\u00eb kandil para saj. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt me radh\u00eb e ndezin kandilin. Ata i mbajn\u00eb duart t\u00eb bashkuara, nd\u00ebrsa babai b\u00ebn lutjen. Pas dark\u00ebs kan\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebrkushtimi dhe diskutimi, ku flasin p\u00ebr besimin dhe tregojn\u00eb p\u00ebr vlerat e krishtera. Gjithashtu, ata lexojn\u00eb fjal\u00ebn e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb s\u00eb bashku dhe e mbyllin me lutje.<\/p>\n
Dr. Lee Salk, nj\u00eb psikolog i njohur p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00eb, shkruan: “Vakti ushqimor \u00ebsht\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonisht i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm. N\u00eb t\u00eb shkuar\u00ebn, njer\u00ebzit e kishin zakon t\u00eb bisedonin dhe t\u00eb d\u00ebgjonin nj\u00ebri-tjetrin gjat\u00eb ngr\u00ebnies, nd\u00ebrsa sot ata ulen p\u00ebrball\u00eb televizorit, q\u00eb t\u00eb han\u00eb dark\u00ebn e tyre televizive. Nuk m\u00eb intereson ta di sa t\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb jeni; k\u00ebt\u00eb koh\u00eb duhet ta shpenzoni me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj. Ju mund t\u00eb flisni rreth \u00ebndrrave tuaja, rreth dit\u00ebs suaj, rreth m\u00ebrzitjeve tuaja etj. Sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb kaloni me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, aq m\u00eb i vlefsh\u00ebm b\u00ebhet vakti i ngr\u00ebnies p\u00ebr ta. N\u00ebse nuk e shpenzojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb koh\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, ata nuk do t\u00eb fitojn\u00eb zakone t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn n\u00eb familje.<\/p>\n
– Liturgjia rreth tryez\u00ebs familjare<\/p>\n
Ajo q\u00eb ndodh rreth tryez\u00ebs familjare gjat\u00eb vaktit t\u00eb ngr\u00ebnies, mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruhet si “liturgjia” e familjes. Ajo fillon dhe mbaron me lutje. Gjat\u00eb vaktit mund t\u00eb lexohen pjes\u00eb nga Shkrimi i Shenjt\u00eb, nga literatura kishtare ose nga jet\u00ebt e shenjtor\u00ebve. Duhet ta shohim vaktin ushqimor t\u00eb familjes si nj\u00eb vend m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnieje, shk\u00ebmbim p\u00ebrvojash dhe lutjeje. P\u00ebr disa nga ne, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb koha e vetme ku e gjith\u00eb familja mblidhet s\u00eb bashku. K\u00ebtu f\u00ebmija mund t\u00eb nd\u00ebrveproj\u00eb me t\u00eb rriturit; t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb artin e t\u00eb biseduarit, t\u00eb folurin dhe t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuarin; t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ndodh n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e v\u00ebllez\u00ebrve, motrave dhe prind\u00ebrve; t\u00eb festoj\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sh\u00ebnuara p\u00ebr familjen dhe ato t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb krishter\u00eb, si p\u00ebr shembull: dit\u00eblindjet, mbarimin e provimeve, dit\u00ebn e par\u00eb t\u00eb pun\u00ebs, dit\u00ebt e festave t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, daljen e dh\u00ebmbit t\u00eb ri e shum\u00eb ngjarje t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb kuptim kur i festojm\u00eb me njer\u00ebzit tan\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrm.<\/p>\n
– Nj\u00eb prind shprehet k\u00ebshtu:<\/p>\n
Gjat\u00eb ngr\u00ebnies, \u00e7donj\u00ebrit nga ne i takon t\u00eb thot\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs, di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka ndodhur te ne gjat\u00eb dit\u00ebs”. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, vakti i familjes \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb ideale p\u00ebr bashkim familjar, p\u00ebr lutje dhe p\u00ebrkushtim. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, gj\u00ebrat m\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyera t\u00eb jet\u00ebs familjare jan\u00eb vaktet e ngr\u00ebnies, kungimi dhe shoq\u00ebria q\u00eb i ofrojm\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrit. Vaktin q\u00eb ndahet me t\u00eb gjith\u00eb pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt rreth tryez\u00ebs s\u00eb familjes, mund ta quajm\u00eb “misteri” i familjes, nj\u00eb mjet hiri, q\u00eb bashkon familjen me Per\u00ebndin\u00eb dhe me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Nd\u00ebrsa nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr shkruan: “Vakti ushqimor ka qen\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebr mua, sepse pika qendrore e gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb tryeza e ngr\u00ebnies, nj\u00eb parashijim i banketit qiellor. Koha e ngr\u00ebnies \u00ebsht\u00eb koh\u00eb misteri p\u00ebr mua, nj\u00eb koh\u00eb fal\u00ebnderimi p\u00ebr k\u00ebdo q\u00eb gjendet n\u00eb at\u00eb tavolin\u00eb, p\u00ebr ushqimin, p\u00ebr t\u00eb qenit pjes\u00eb e historis\u00eb s\u00eb madhe t\u00eb Krijimit. Ne ndajm\u00eb ngjarjet e dit\u00ebs, tregojm\u00eb histori, shikojm\u00eb p\u00ebr fjal\u00eb n\u00eb fjalor\u00eb; \u00ebsht\u00eb vakt q\u00eb zgjat shum\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, pasi ngr\u00ebnia ka mbaruar dhe qirinjt\u00eb jan\u00eb djegur.<\/p>\n
Marr\u00eb nga:
\n“Familja Orthodhokse – Kisha e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb”
\nAnthony M. Coniaris.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Artikull mbi r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e tryez\u00ebs s\u00eb familjes si vend bashkimi, lutjeje dhe p\u00ebrkushtimi. Citon Edmund Barbotin, Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojartin dhe psikologun Dr. Lee Salk p\u00ebr rolin e vaktit ushqimor n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e familjes s\u00eb krishter\u00eb orthodhokse.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"nentitulli":"P\u00ebr familjen e krishter\u00eb","numri":"8 (344)","viti":"2021","muaji":"Gusht","muaji_numer":"8","dita":"","faqet":"[4]","fjale_kyce":"[\"familje\", \"tryeza\", \"vakt ushqimor\", \"lutje\", \"Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti\", \"Edmund Barbotin\", \"Lee Salk\", \"liturgjia e familjes\", \"f\u00ebmij\u00eb\", \"kungim\", \"tradita kishtare\"]","permbledhje":"Artikull mbi r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e tryez\u00ebs s\u00eb familjes si vend bashkimi, lutjeje dhe p\u00ebrkushtimi. Citon Edmund Barbotin, Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojartin dhe psikologun Dr. Lee Salk p\u00ebr rolin e vaktit ushqimor n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e familjes s\u00eb krishter\u00eb orthodhokse.","autori":"Anthony M. Coniaris (Marr\u00eb nga: \"Familja Orthodhokse - Kisha e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb\")","kategoria":"Familje\/Shpirt\u00ebrore","kryeredaktor":"Thoma Dhima"},"ngjallja_kategoria":[11443],"ngjallja_autori":[11444],"ngjallja_viti":[11333],"ngjallja_kryeredaktor":[9473],"class_list":["post-89910","ngjallja_article","type-ngjallja_article","status-publish","hentry","ngjallja_kategoria-familje-shpirterore","ngjallja_autori-anthony-m-coniaris-marre-nga-familja-orthodhokse-kisha-e-perendise","ngjallja_viti-11333","ngjallja_kryeredaktor-thoma-dhima"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n