A \u00ebsht\u00eb jasht\u00eb mode martesa?!<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrqindja e divorcit n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se dyfishuar n\u00eb k\u00ebta 20 vjet\u00ebt e fundit dhe t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb shpesh zgjedhin t\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetojn\u00eb n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb martohen. Shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra n\u00eb media dhe n\u00eb filma nxisin t\u00eb besojm\u00eb se martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb institucion jasht\u00eb mode, e detyruar vet\u00ebm nga besimi fetar dhe kultura tradicionale. Para nesh shtrihen zgjedhje t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme n\u00eb lidhje me t\u00eb ardhmen e struktur\u00ebs s\u00eb familjes dhe shoq\u00eb- ris\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrsa shkojm\u00eb drejt s\u00eb ardhmes \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb zgjedhje t\u00eb men\u00e7ura. Lum- turia e k\u00ebsaj gjenerate, e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb dhe madje edhe e nip\u00ebrve\/mbesave, varet nga zgjedh- jet e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve q\u00eb ne nd\u00ebrmarrim.<\/p>\n
Nga Bibla dhe Tradita e shenjt\u00eb e Kish\u00ebs son\u00eb kemi udh\u00ebzime t\u00eb qarta p\u00ebr zgjedhje t\u00eb duhura. E dim\u00eb se Per\u00ebndia q\u00eb na krijoi tha se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb njeriu t\u00eb jet\u00eb i vet\u00ebm n\u00eb kopshtin e Edenit. Per\u00ebndia krijoi Ev\u00ebn dhe ia solli Adamit si plot\u00ebsim. Shkrimi na tregon se Per\u00ebndia i krijoi qeniet njer\u00ebzore mashkull dhe fem\u00ebr n\u00eb imazhin e Tij. Si mashkull dhe fem\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar n\u00eb imazhin e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb burri dhe gruaja plot\u00ebsojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Prandaj dhe Shkrimi thot\u00eb: \u201cP\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye njeriu do t\u00eb braktis\u00eb baba- n\u00eb dhe n\u00ebn\u00ebn e tij dhe do t\u00eb bashkohet me gruan e tij, dhe do t\u00eb jen\u00eb nj\u00eb mish i vet\u00ebm\u201d (Zanafilla 2:24). P\u00ebrgjat\u00eb historis\u00eb s\u00eb krishterimit, Kisha ka pohuar mir\u00ebsin\u00eb e krijimit t\u00eb Per\u00ebndis\u00eb n\u00eb mir\u00ebsin\u00eb e martes\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb 50 vjet\u00ebt e fundit Shtetet e Bashkuara dhe vende t\u00eb tjera per\u00ebndimore kan\u00eb eksperimentuar me alternativa t\u00eb martes\u00ebs, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn Per\u00ebndia e krijoi si p\u00ebrkushtim p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00eb burrit dhe gruas ndaj nj\u00ebri-tjetrit. N\u00eb shum\u00eb vende p\u00ebr- qindjete divorcitjan\u00eb rritur rreth 50%. Segmente t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ndjeshme kan\u00eb hequr dor\u00eb nga ideja e martes\u00ebs dhe kan\u00eb praktikuar si alternativ\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetes\u00ebn ose prind\u00ebrimin me nj\u00eb prind t\u00eb vet\u00ebm. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs ka qen\u00eb e mundur q\u00eb k\u00ebto alternativa t\u00eb studiohen dhe krahasohen me martes\u00ebn.<\/p>\n
Rezultatet e k\u00ebtyre studimeve jan\u00eb t\u00eb qarta. Ato kan\u00eb habitur shum\u00eb prej shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebve, por nuk jan\u00eb habi p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb e din\u00eb se martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb dhurat\u00eb e mir\u00eb e dh\u00ebn\u00eb nga Per\u00ebndia dhe q\u00eb Ai e krijoi burrin dhe gruan n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb p\u00ebr martes\u00eb, q\u00eb ishte m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebrmes s\u00eb cil\u00ebs ata do t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetonin vepr\u00ebn transformuese t\u00eb Per\u00ebndis\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Shum\u00eb studime shkencore tregojn\u00eb se njer\u00eb- zit e martuar jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur se beqar\u00ebt ose se ata q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku pa u martuar. Njer\u00eb- zit e martuar g\u00ebzojn\u00eb sh\u00ebndet m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe jetojn\u00eb m\u00eb gjat\u00eb. T\u00eb martuarit fitojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb para dhe grumbullojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb pasuri. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb rriten n\u00eb martesa t\u00eb pacenuara jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb<\/p>\n
lumtur, m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm dhe arrijn\u00eb nivele m\u00eb t\u00eb larta edukimi. K\u00ebta f\u00ebmij\u00eb kan\u00eb edhe mund\u00ebsi me t\u00eb lart\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar vet\u00eb martesa t\u00eb lumtura dhe t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme. T\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto raporte jan\u00eb bazuar n\u00eb prova studimesh shkencore.<\/p>\n
Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb mister dhe na u dha nga Pe- r\u00ebndia, por \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe art n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin punojm\u00eb s\u00eb bashku me Per\u00ebndin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar di\u00e7ka t\u00eb bukur. Martesa na ndihmon t\u00eb arrijm\u00eb potencia- lin ton\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb njer\u00ebzor, q\u00eb Per\u00ebndia pati si sy- nim p\u00ebr ne. N\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet martes\u00ebs m\u00ebsojm\u00eb t\u00eb mohojm\u00eb veten dhe t\u2019i japim personit tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb sakrifikuese. N\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e ngusht\u00eb t\u00eb martes\u00ebs mund t\u00eb dallojm\u00eb edhe shum\u00eb prej dob\u00ebsive dhe m\u00ebkateve tona q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb fshehta. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb martesa sh\u00ebrben si pasqyr\u00eb. \u00c7do dit\u00eb t\u00eb martes\u00ebs duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb t\u2019i shprehim personit q\u00eb Zoti na ka dh\u00ebn\u00eb si shok\/shoqe t\u00eb jet\u00ebs dashurin\u00eb q\u00eb kemi p\u00ebrjetuar nga Per\u00ebndia. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb martesa punon p\u00ebr shp\u00ebtimin ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Si p\u00ebrfundim, martesa nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb institu- cion jasht\u00eb mode. Si m\u00ebsimet e krishtera dhe shkenca bashk\u00ebkohore pohojn\u00eb se martesa sjell dobi t\u00eb madhe si p\u00ebr \u00e7iftin e martuar edhe p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Java e martes\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb l\u00ebvizje nd\u00ebrkomb\u00eb- tare e themeluar n\u00eb Angli m\u00eb 1996 dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur n\u00ebp\u00ebr Evrop\u00eb e n\u00eb bot\u00eb dhe ka si q\u00ebllim t\u2019i kujtoj\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb vler\u00ebn e martes\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb<\/p>\n
inkurajoj\u00eb ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb bekimin t\u00eb martohen t\u00eb investojn\u00eb p\u00ebr martesat e tyre. An\u00ebtar\u00eb t\u00eb Ki- sh\u00ebs Orthodhokse kan\u00eb punuar s\u00eb bashku me an\u00ebtar\u00eb t\u00eb Kish\u00ebs Romano-Katolike dhe t\u00eb ko- munitetit Ungjillor p\u00ebr t\u00eb sjell\u00eb Jav\u00ebn e Martes\u00ebs n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri. P\u00ebrmes k\u00ebsaj l\u00ebvizjeje komuniteti i krishter\u00eb i sh\u00ebrben gjith\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb shqiptare. Duke ndihmuar Shqip\u00ebrin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsoj\u00eb martesat e saj, do t\u00eb rrisim lul\u00ebzimin komb\u00ebtar, ulim krimin dhe rrisim lumturin\u00eb e njer\u00ebzve n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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