Tem\u00eb shoq\u00ebrore<\/p>\n
A kan\u00eb autoritet prind\u00ebrit e sot\u00ebm?<\/p>\n
Nga Vasiliqi Panajotopullu
\nPapavasiliu<\/p>\n
\u201cAi ose ajo kan\u00eb autoritet. Nuk i duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebrtas\u00eb ose t\u00eb ina- toset, t\u00eb mb\u00ebrthen me shikimin e tij. Nuk mund t\u2019i kund\u00ebrshtosh\u201d. K\u00ebshtu thoshim dikur p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit tan\u00eb, p\u00ebr m\u00ebsuesit, p\u00ebr profesor\u00ebt tan\u00eb. Por, k\u00ebt\u00eb autoritet, a e njeh brezi i sot\u00ebm, q\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e kopshtit tek adoleshent\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb? Do t\u00eb m\u00eb lejoni q\u00eb t\u00eb dyshoj. V\u00ebzhgoni n\u00ebn\u00ebn e re si i lutet f\u00ebmi- j\u00ebs q\u00eb t\u00eb vishet, f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb mosh\u00ebs 10-11 vje\u00e7 q\u00eb t\u00eb haj\u00eb dhe adole- shentit q\u00eb t\u00eb kthehet n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi para mesnat\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
Por \u00e7far\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptojm\u00eb me fja- l\u00ebn \u201cautoritet\u201d. Cilat jan\u00eb kara- kteristikat kryesore t\u00eb tij. \u00cbsht\u00eb da- shuria e edukatorit p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb do edukoj\u00eb, por nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht edhe guximi q\u00eb t\u2019i thot\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn. Nj\u00eb pedagog bashk\u00ebkohor francez, Janik Bone, shkruan: \u201cAutoriteti ve- ndoset me dashuri, por dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb e pandar\u00eb nga e v\u00ebrteta. E v\u00ebrteta pa dashuri \u00ebsht\u00eb e ashp\u00ebr, ashtu si dashuria pa t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn shkat\u00ebrron. Mos ndoshta pak\u00eb- simi ose mungesa totale e autoritetit n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme e ka baz\u00ebn te ndarja e k\u00ebtyre dy vlerave?\u201d<\/p>\n
T\u00eb themi t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, t\u00eb vendo- sim disa d\u00ebnime, t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulim n\u00eb ndryshimin e disa programeve,<\/p>\n
t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto, \u00ebsht\u00eb e natyrshme, mund t\u00eb krijojn\u00eb nj\u00eb pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi ose dhembje te f\u00ebmija, por dashuria e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mbi ndjenjat. Kujdesi \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, qoft\u00eb edhe n\u00ebse kjo shkakton ndonj\u00eb m\u00ebrzitje te f\u00ebmija dhe prindi duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb indiferent n\u00ebse f\u00ebmija, adole- shenti ose i riu reagon me inat, ner- va ose \u201cvar turinjt\u00eb\u201d .<\/p>\n
\u201cPor un\u00eb dua t\u00eb jem mikesh\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim \u201d, – thot\u00eb n\u00ebna dhe shpesh edhe babai. Por prind\u00ebrit duhet t\u00eb din\u00eb se f\u00ebmija nuk ka ne- voj\u00eb p\u00ebr miq, miq gjen n\u00eb ambientet e loj\u00ebrave t\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmija ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr prind me dor\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb dij\u00eb ta drejtoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ket\u00eb sigurin\u00eb se edhe pri- nd\u00ebrit duan q\u00eb f\u00ebmija i tyre t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb i g\u00ebzuar. Por, mbi k\u00ebt\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb e do- mosdoshme t\u00eb vendosen disa ku- fij, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u \u00e7orientuar dhe kjo duhet filluar q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. Q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl do m\u00ebsoj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb vendos\u00eb gj\u00ebrat e tij n\u00eb vendin e duhur, do m\u00ebsoj\u00eb t\u00eb lutet dhe t\u00eb fal\u00ebnderoj\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj sh\u00ebrbi- mi, do m\u00ebsoj\u00eb t\u00eb pres\u00eb, t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb, t\u00eb ndaj\u00eb, t\u00eb mbaj\u00eb premtimin e dh\u00ebn\u00eb, t\u00eb bindet, t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb falje…<\/p>\n
\u201cPo, por t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb koh\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhen\u201d – thot\u00eb nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb e zem\u00ebruar. Por ekziston edhe babai. Nuk k\u00ebrkon askush q\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pesh\u00eb t\u00eb madhe ta marr\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00ebna. P\u00ebr edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb i pranish\u00ebm edhe ba<\/p>\n
bai. P\u00ebr edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs jan\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb dy p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs p\u00ebrpara Per\u00ebndis\u00eb dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb njer\u00ebzore. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb ndajn\u00eb rolet dhe t\u00eb bien dakord n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn linj\u00eb.<\/p>\n
\u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet midis edukuesit dhe nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit nuk mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb n\u00eb harmoni. Prind\u00ebrit si edhe m\u00ebsuesit kan\u00eb nj\u00eb rol t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb dhe pretendues, disa her\u00eb mb\u00ebrrijn\u00eb n\u00eb ekstreme, por disa her\u00eb duhet edhe t\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqen. K\u00eb- rkohet p\u00ebrmbajtje, njohje e me- todave edukuese, ndri\u00e7im nga Pe- r\u00ebndia. Edukuesi (m\u00ebsues apo prind) duhet t\u00eb besoj\u00eb n\u00eb rolin e tij dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet q\u00eb ta zbatoj\u00eb, madje t\u00eb digjet nga flaka e detyr\u00ebs s\u00eb tij, flak\u00eb q\u00eb do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb rrezatoj\u00eb, t\u00eb ngacmoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mos llogaris\u00eb mu- ndin dhe koh\u00ebn. K\u00ebt\u00eb e ndiejn\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe kjo i ngacmon. F\u00ebmija i sot\u00ebm pretendon koh\u00eb nga koha e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij. Roll i edukuesit \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn dhe adoleshentin t\u00eb vendos\u00eb the- mele t\u00eb forta q\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtoj\u00eb drejt personalitetin e tij. K\u00ebt\u00eb vep\u00ebr mund ta nd\u00ebrtojm\u00eb duke u th\u00ebn\u00eb k\u00ebshtu:<\/p>\n
E vetmja gj\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshiroj \u00ebsht\u00eb e mira jote, sepse t\u00eb dua. T\u00eb re- spektoj edhe kur ti vet\u00eb nuk re- spekton veten t\u00ebnde.<\/p>\n
-Jam gati t\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoj, t\u00eb bisedoj me ty, por nuk kam nd\u00ebr mend t\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00eb t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrosh jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde dhe<\/p>\n
p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebj \u00e7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur t\u00eb t\u00eb pengoj.<\/p>\n
Do t\u00eb jem pretendues kundrejt teje, sepse jeta nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb dhe duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrgatitesh.<\/p>\n
Para se ta mbyllim, duhet thek- suar di\u00e7ka shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme: Q\u00eb edukatori t\u00eb ket\u00eb sukses, duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsoj\u00eb veten e tij. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtira, por m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishmja. Q\u00eb t\u00eb frym\u00ebzosh t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, duhet s\u00eb pari ta p\u00ebrje- tosh. Q\u00eb ta b\u00ebsh f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb synoj\u00eb majat, duhet s\u00eb pari ti ta kesh shijuar. Nuk mund ti t\u00eb pish duhan dhe t\u00eb ndalosh f\u00ebmij\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e pij\u00eb, t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh vazhdimisht televizor dhe ta ndalosh te f\u00ebmija yt, nuk mund t\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pahijshme dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh nga f\u00ebmija t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb hijsh\u00ebm, t\u2019i k\u00ebr- kosh t\u00eb gjitha gati dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh bashk\u00ebpunim, nuk mund t\u00eb pre- tendosh dashuri nga f\u00ebmija kur nuk ua ke dh\u00ebn\u00eb me fjal\u00eb dhe sidomos me shembullin t\u00ebnd.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb i frym\u00ebzojm\u00eb vet- \u00ebm kur shohin se p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcejm\u00eb vog\u00eblsit\u00eb tona. K\u00ebshtu: Autoriteti \u00ebsht\u00eb rezultati i dashuris\u00eb, i s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs, i besimit n\u00eb rolin t\u00ebnd dhe sidomos i p\u00ebrpjekjes personale p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar i pari ato q\u00eb pre tendon nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
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