Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb si t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt<\/p>\n
Po, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb si t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. \u00cbsht\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb vuan, g\u00ebzon, ka zili, inatoset si f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb dashuron, q\u00eb p\u00ebrkushtohet ndofta m\u00eb tep\u00ebr se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn e shkenc\u00ebs quhet “F\u00ebmij\u00eb i ve\u00e7ant\u00eb”.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb pedagogu francez Didier-Jacqes Duche, an\u00ebtar i Akademis\u00eb Mjek\u00ebsore, shkruan n\u00eb parath\u00ebnien e tij n\u00eb librin e Eliane Chaulet “Manual i Pedagogjis\u00eb s\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb” (botim i 1994): “Kurr\u00eb t\u00eb mos ulim kok\u00ebn. T\u00eb besojm\u00eb kurdoher\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsim q\u00eb, sado i vog\u00ebl qoft\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb i mundur dhe asgj\u00eb nuk na lejon ta injorojm\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrpiqemi p\u00ebr ta realizuar”. Edhe Eliane Chaulet, akoma m\u00eb optimiste, n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin lib\u00ebr thekson: “Q\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebm\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb me sindromin daun t\u00eb zhytet n\u00eb nj\u00eb zhvillim t\u00eb vonuar, \u00ebsht\u00eb turp p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e sotme q\u00eb konsiderohet e qytet\u00ebruar”. Mesazhe trondit\u00ebse dhe shum\u00eb shpres\u00ebdh\u00ebn\u00ebse vijn\u00eb nga shkenc\u00ebtar\u00eb q\u00eb vun\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre n\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Eliane Chaulet punoi 35 vjet pran\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve me t\u00eb meta trupore dhe p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht me f\u00ebmij\u00eb me zhvillim mendor shum\u00eb t\u00eb prapambetur, prandaj mesazhet e saj kan\u00eb interes t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Po cil\u00ebt jan\u00eb k\u00ebta f\u00ebmij\u00eb? Jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb. Jan\u00eb dhimbja e shpirtit ton\u00eb. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se sot mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb f\u00ebmija im, i v\u00ebllait tim, nes\u00ebr mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb f\u00ebmija i f\u00ebmij\u00ebs tim. Si\u00e7 nuk dim\u00eb se ku do bjer\u00eb rrufeja, ashtu nuk dim\u00eb se ku do ndodh\u00eb edhe kjo. Mjek\u00ebsia b\u00ebn shum\u00eb supozime, t\u00eb cilat shpesh p\u00ebrmbysen. Shpesh sheh \u00e7ifte t\u00eb reja, t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm, t\u00eb lumtur q\u00eb shk\u00eblqejn\u00eb nga lumturia dhe, papritur, kund\u00ebr \u00e7do logjike u takon t\u00eb ngren\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kryq. N\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt, prind\u00ebr pa t\u00eb dh\u00ebna t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta b\u00ebjn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm. Deri sa gj\u00ebrat vijn\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, p\u00ebrballimi duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb me p\u00ebrpjekje, si n\u00eb \u00e7do rast t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Por ndodh di\u00e7ka e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb q\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00ebson gjendjen dhe keq\u00ebson gj\u00ebrat n\u00eb d\u00ebm t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb familjes. Prind\u00ebrit, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 dhimbjes s\u00eb thell\u00eb q\u00eb ndjejn\u00eb n\u00eb zbulimin e k\u00ebsaj gjendje, me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn bashkohem plot\u00ebsisht, ndjejn\u00eb shpesh edhe nj\u00eb far\u00eb turpi. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe pika me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn s’jam dakord dhe mendoj se t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e kemi p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb q\u00eb t’i ndihmojm\u00eb.<\/p>\n
\u00c7’ndodh zakonisht? E kan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb pajtohen me realitetin, ta pranojn\u00eb at\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu me ndjenj\u00ebn e hidh\u00ebrimit dhe t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjimit bashkohet edhe ndjenja e turpit. Shpesh e fshehin f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre edhe nga rrethi m\u00eb i ngusht\u00eb familjar, nga t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit dhe miqt\u00eb dhe, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, nga rrethi shoq\u00ebror. Q\u00eb nga ky \u00e7ast fillojn\u00eb dy reagime t\u00eb gabuara q\u00eb kan\u00eb pasoja m\u00eb t\u00eb thella dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb dhimbshme.<\/p>\n
Reagimi i par\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se vonojn\u00eb t\u00eb marrin vendimin p\u00ebr t’u k\u00ebshilluar me specialist\u00ebt dhe kjo vones\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb vras\u00ebse, se humbasin koh\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7muar. Sa m\u00eb shpejt e p\u00ebrballojm\u00eb aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr shpresa kemi n\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Shkalla e p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimit varet nga koha sa m\u00eb e shpejt\u00eb e p\u00ebrballimit t\u00eb gjendjes. Lidhur me k\u00ebt\u00eb, Eliane Chaulet shkruan: “F\u00ebmij\u00ebt Daun (f\u00ebmij\u00ebt me zhvillim t\u00eb von\u00ebt) nuk lind\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb vonuar. Kur nj\u00eb pedagog specialist i merr p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr n\u00eb koh\u00eb dhe me p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi, ata mund t\u00eb vazhdojn\u00eb normalisht shkoll\u00ebn 8-vje\u00e7are deri edhe n\u00eb gjimnaz”. M\u00eb posht\u00eb shton: “Me sa f\u00ebmij\u00eb me t\u00eb meta u mora q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn 3-vje\u00e7 ose e shumta para 5-vje\u00e7 (jo pas 5-vje\u00e7) asnj\u00eb nuk mbeti me zhvillim t\u00eb von\u00ebt, asnj\u00eb nuk paraqiti anomali n\u00eb sjellje. N\u00eb shum\u00eb raste munda t’i fus n\u00eb shkolla normale, ku mbaruan shkoll\u00ebn fillore dhe t\u00eb mesme me rezultate t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqshme”.<\/p>\n
Reagimi i dyt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se krijojn\u00eb nj\u00eb atmosfer\u00eb t\u00eb tendosur q\u00eb r\u00ebndon vet\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, prind\u00ebrit dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb. Mbyllin der\u00ebn dhe nuk duan q\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se \u00e7’ndodh n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e tyre, por kjo e b\u00ebn kryqin e tyre m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe pak\u00ebson shpresat p\u00ebr nj\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsim t\u00eb sakt\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Njoh f\u00ebmij\u00eb, q\u00eb u \u00ebsht\u00eb ndaluar t\u00eb ftojn\u00eb shok\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb tyre, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos shohin f\u00ebmij\u00ebn problematik. T\u00eb tjer\u00eb, kur kan\u00eb festa, e largojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn problematik nga sht\u00ebpia q\u00eb t\u00eb mos zbulohet problemi, por me k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb problemi thellohet dhe pasojat jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnda p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e familjes. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb tmerr\u00ebsisht e gabuar q\u00eb nxit n\u00eb b\u00ebrjen e nj\u00eb jete t\u00eb dyfisht\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim shum\u00eb negativ dhe familja zhytet n\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr izolim, nd\u00ebrsa m\u00eb tep\u00ebr se kurr\u00eb ajo ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb dal\u00eb nga ky izolim.<\/p>\n
Kisha jon\u00eb ka treguar gjithmon\u00eb kujdes dhe u ka q\u00ebndruar af\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebve me probleme, duke i ndihmuar si nga ana materiale ashtu edhe shpirt\u00ebrisht, q\u00eb ata ta ndjejn\u00eb sa m\u00eb pak ndryshimin me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
Sigurisht, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gjendje ndihmon edhe vet\u00eb shoq\u00ebria. Me gjith\u00eb predikimet kund\u00ebr racizmit, sapo takon di\u00e7ka jo t\u00eb zakonshme, do ta komentoj\u00eb, do ta p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb me kureshtje. Por kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e padrejt\u00eb. Edhe k\u00ebta prind\u00ebr e prisnin f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin g\u00ebzim q\u00eb e presin t\u00eb gjith\u00eb. Kishin \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar edhe ata nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb ose nj\u00eb djal\u00eb t\u00eb zgjuar, t\u00eb bukur, plot hir, por jeta vendosi ndryshe dhe jetojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre jasht\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebs, por si ua dha Krijuesi. Asnj\u00eb prind nuk mund t\u00eb caktoj\u00eb n\u00ebse jeta e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre do jet\u00eb e shkurt\u00ebr apo e gjat\u00eb, e sh\u00ebndetshme apo e s\u00ebmur\u00eb, n\u00eb do ndjeki rrug\u00ebn e mir\u00eb apo do marr\u00eb rrug\u00eb t\u00eb gabuar. Realiteti i sot\u00ebm na e v\u00ebrteton k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr se kurr\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Me shum\u00eb mundim binda nj\u00eb shoqe dhe kolege, n\u00ebn\u00eb e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije t\u00eb till\u00eb, t\u00eb dilnim sh\u00ebtitje bashk\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn. Ishte nj\u00eb dit\u00eb e bukur dimri. N\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ast donim t\u00eb pinim di\u00e7ka dhe u fut\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb pasti\u00e7eri. E, pra, u b\u00ebm\u00eb epiqendra e interesit t\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve. Lan\u00eb bisedat e tyre dhe na shikonin me k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulje dhe interes, si di\u00e7ka q\u00eb u kishte b\u00ebr\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrshtypje. N\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ast n\u00ebna, tep\u00ebr e zem\u00ebruar, m\u00eb tha: “Nuk u lodhe q\u00eb u b\u00ebm\u00eb teat\u00ebr?” Rr\u00ebmbeu f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e saj dhe u largua e hidh\u00ebruar, pa folur fare.<\/p>\n
Para 40-vjet\u00ebsh studioja n\u00eb Gjenev\u00eb. Atje takova f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb dhe u lidha me ta. I sheh n\u00eb park, n\u00eb pasti\u00e7eri, n\u00eb rrug\u00eb, kudo. T\u00eb veshur mir\u00eb ata shoq\u00ebrohen nga prind\u00ebrit e tyre fare natyrsh\u00ebm. Asnj\u00ebher\u00eb dhe askush nuk merret me ta. Ka ardhur koha q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb veprojm\u00eb k\u00ebshtu.<\/p>\n
Sigurisht, ka filluar q\u00eb ky problem t\u00eb p\u00ebrballet ndryshe nga prind\u00ebrit dhe shoq\u00ebria. Kam nj\u00eb mikesh\u00eb me nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb thot\u00eb: “Kur na vijn\u00eb njer\u00ebz n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi i presim q\u00eb t\u00eb kat\u00ebrt, kur dalim dalim, q\u00eb t\u00eb kat\u00ebrt. Shkojm\u00eb atje ku na pranojn\u00eb t\u00eb kat\u00ebrt”. Edhe kjo n\u00ebn\u00eb u mundua shum\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb pranoj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb q\u00ebndrim. K\u00ebtu duhet theksuar se njer\u00ebzit e thjesht\u00eb sillen shum\u00eb her\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe pajtohen shum\u00eb m\u00eb shpejt me k\u00ebto kushte t\u00eb veganta t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb fshatin tim kisha nj\u00eb familje me nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb. Ishte e pamundur q\u00eb f\u00ebmija t\u00eb m\u00ebsonte t\u00eb lexonte. Erdh\u00ebn t\u00eb diskutonin p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb rast. Ku ta \u00e7onin? Si ta ndihmonin? N\u00eb cil\u00ebn shkoll\u00eb ta regjistronin, sado q\u00eb t’u kushtonte? I k\u00ebshillova ta mbanin n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, n\u00eb krah\u00ebt e tyre, ta rrethojn\u00eb me dashuri, por pa e ve\u00e7uar. T\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb edhe ai t\u00eb bindet, t\u00eb ndihmoj\u00eb, t\u00eb marr\u00eb pjes\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe t\u00eb harrojn\u00eb shkollimin. K\u00ebshtu u b\u00eb. Sot \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb e rritur, 16-vje\u00e7 q\u00eb ndihmon n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, q\u00ebndis gj\u00ebra t\u00eb thjeshta n\u00eb makin\u00eb, merr pjes\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do vend dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb e pranushme nga t\u00eb gjith\u00eb. Jan\u00eb miqt\u00eb e saj, – si\u00e7 i quan. T\u00eb v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit e duan dhe sillen mir\u00eb. Por n\u00eb rrethet intelektuale gj\u00ebrat jan\u00eb ndryshe. Pse, vall\u00eb?<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrktheu nga greqishtja
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Artikulli flet p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt me nevoja t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta, sidomos ata me sindromin daun. Autori shqyrton reagimet e gabuara t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb, duke promovuar dashurin\u00eb, pranimin dhe integrimin e k\u00ebtyre f\u00ebmij\u00ebve si pjes\u00eb e familjes dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"nentitulli":"\"Q\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebm\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb me sindromin daun t\u00eb zhytet n\u00eb nj\u00eb zhvillim t\u00eb vonuar, \u00ebsht\u00eb turp p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e sotme q\u00eb konsiderohet e qytet\u00ebruar\".","numri":"3 (134)","viti":"2004","muaji":"Mars","muaji_numer":"3","dita":"","faqet":"[4]","fjale_kyce":"[\"f\u00ebmij\u00eb i ve\u00e7ant\u00eb\", \"sindromi daun\", \"zhvillim i vonuar\", \"Eliane Chaulet\", \"Didier-Jacqes Duche\", \"pedagogji\", \"familje\", \"prind\u00ebr\", \"izolim\", \"dashuri\", \"shoq\u00ebria\"]","permbledhje":"Artikulli flet p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt me nevoja t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta, sidomos ata me sindromin daun. Autori shqyrton reagimet e gabuara t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb, duke promovuar dashurin\u00eb, pranimin dhe integrimin e k\u00ebtyre f\u00ebmij\u00ebve si pjes\u00eb e familjes dhe shoq\u00ebris\u00eb.","autori":"P\u00ebrktheu nga greqishtja Nafsika Melo","kategoria":"Edukim \/ Shoq\u00ebri","kryeredaktor":"Thoma Dhima"},"ngjallja_kategoria":[11172],"ngjallja_autori":[11173],"ngjallja_viti":[11122],"ngjallja_kryeredaktor":[9473],"class_list":["post-86394","ngjallja_article","type-ngjallja_article","status-publish","hentry","ngjallja_kategoria-edukim-shoqeri","ngjallja_autori-perktheu-nga-greqishtja-nafsika-melo","ngjallja_viti-11122","ngjallja_kryeredaktor-thoma-dhima"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n