Mendime p\u00ebr nj\u00eb edukim t\u00eb ekuilibruar<\/p>\n
(vijon nga numri i dhjetorit)<\/p>\n
“Harxhojm\u00eb kaq lek\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebsime private, p\u00ebr gjuh\u00eb t\u00eb huaja dhe nuk kemi t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb kemi pretendime?” – thon\u00eb prind\u00ebrit.<\/p>\n
\u00c7’do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb i pari i klas\u00ebs? Kjo varet nga shkalla e intelektit, nga zgjuarsia, nga puna dhe mundi i tij. \u00cbsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb kujdessh\u00ebm, t\u00eb disiplinuar, logjik? Jo. \u00cbsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka m\u00eb e gjer\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb fjala p\u00ebr atmosfer\u00ebn q\u00eb f\u00ebmija ka n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, sh\u00ebndetin e tij, m\u00ebnyra me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn pranon ose refuzon aft\u00ebsit\u00eb e tij p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar, m\u00ebnyra me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn pranon t\u00eb jet\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb, m\u00ebnyra me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn pranon t\u00eb jet\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm nga ideja q\u00eb ka krijuar para se t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, ose para se t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb klas\u00ebn q\u00eb ndodhet. S\u00eb fundi, q\u00ebndrimi i prind\u00ebrve p\u00ebrpara situatave t\u00eb paevitueshme nga hutimi deri tek problemet m\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore, probleme q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga m\u00ebnyra e t\u00eb menduarit ose nga karakteri i tij.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebshtu mbytet dhe vuan shpirti f\u00ebminor, pastaj mb\u00ebrrin mosha e adoleshenc\u00ebs, f\u00ebmija ngre krye, shpesh shum\u00eb eg\u00ebr, duke i hedhur t\u00eb gjitha n\u00eb er\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Albin Michel n\u00eb librin e tij “Nga djepi n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb – rrug\u00ebt e suksesit” (1966) thot\u00eb: “E dim\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb se kushdo tjet\u00ebr se, nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb nuk ka sukses n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, n\u00ebse nuk ndjehet mir\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij. Suksesi i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb shoq\u00ebrohet me nj\u00eb qet\u00ebsi shpirt\u00ebrore n\u00eb familje. N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se e harrojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb nj\u00eb gabim t\u00eb madh pedagogjik.”<\/p>\n
Q\u00eb t\u00eb jemi m\u00eb t\u00eb sakt\u00eb duhet t\u00eb themi se nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit e mir\u00eb, si edhe t\u00eb k\u00ebqijt\u00eb formohen q\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Nj\u00eb rol kryesor, si\u00e7 theksuam, luan atmosfera familjare. \u00cbsht\u00eb tep\u00ebr e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb midis nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti t\u00eb lumtur, t\u00eb ndjej\u00eb lumturin\u00eb e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij, sepse f\u00ebmija e ndjen lumturin\u00eb ose fatkeq\u00ebsin\u00eb e prind\u00ebrve. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb drejtim askush nuk mund ta mashtroj\u00eb. Ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb fundjavat me prind\u00ebrit e tij, si edhe pushimet e ver\u00ebs. Ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrqafoj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebn para se t\u00eb flej\u00eb, t\u00eb bisedoj\u00eb me t\u00eb atin. Nuk duhet t\u00eb harrojm\u00eb se kur zemra e tij nuk k\u00ebnaqet, truri i tij bllokohet, prandaj pedagogu i madh zvicerian Adolf Ferriere shkroi: “Duam ose nuk duam ne, familja p\u00ebrb\u00ebn djepin ku endet gjith\u00eb bota e ndjenjave t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe pik\u00ebnisja p\u00ebr nj\u00eb sukses ose disfat\u00eb shkollore dhe si rrjedhim e gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij shoq\u00ebrore”.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmij\u00ebt e sot\u00ebm, qoft\u00eb t\u00eb shkollave shtet\u00ebrore apo private jan\u00eb tep\u00ebr t\u00eb ngarkuar me m\u00ebsimet shkollore e jasht\u00ebshkollore: (gjuh\u00eb t\u00eb huaja, aktivitete sportive, kompjuter, studim). T\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto z\u00ebn\u00eb or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra dhe jan\u00eb n\u00eb kurriz t\u00eb gjumit. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt 6-7 vje\u00e7 flen\u00eb, e shumta, 8 or\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e k\u00ebsaj moshe duhet t\u00eb flen\u00eb deri n\u00eb 12 or\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb dhe ata 16 vje\u00e7 deri 9 or\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00eb.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebshtu v\u00ebm\u00eb re se e gjith\u00eb jeta e organizuar e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb e mbingarkuar.<\/p>\n
Por paralelisht me ndrydhjen e ndjenjave t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, ndrydhet edhe bota shpirt\u00ebrore e tij.<\/p>\n
Dihet se \u00e7do edukim fetar i f\u00ebmij\u00ebs nuk mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb rezultat pa pjes\u00ebmarrjen e prind\u00ebrve dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb familjes. Jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb rralla ato familje q\u00eb luten s\u00eb bashku me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt qoft\u00eb edhe t\u00eb shtun\u00ebn, apo n\u00eb tryez\u00ebn e drek\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
T\u00eb diel\u00ebn, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb kish\u00eb i l\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb flen\u00eb, duke u justifikuar se kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7lodhje, kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr gjum\u00eb, duke u hequr mund\u00ebsin\u00eb e pranis\u00eb s\u00eb tyre n\u00eb kish\u00eb. Pra, m\u00ebnjanohet ndjenja fetare q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb an\u00eb tjer\u00ebr e ndjenjave n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb sa e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme aq dhe themelore. Ndrydhja dhe p\u00ebrbuzja e ndjenj\u00ebs fetare ka pasoja katastrofike n\u00eb zhvillimin psikologjik t\u00eb njeriut – theksojn\u00eb psikolog\u00ebt e m\u00ebdhenj. Jong shkruan: “N\u00eb shekullin e dritave d\u00ebbojn\u00eb Per\u00ebndin\u00eb nga zemrat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe nuk shohin q\u00eb n\u00eb vend t\u00eb tij vendosin nj\u00eb Per\u00ebndi tjet\u00ebr, Per\u00ebndin\u00eb e tmerrit.”<\/p>\n
Edmond Rochedieu thekson: “Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, shum\u00eb shpesh harrojm\u00eb se ajo q\u00eb njeriu ka nevoj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb besimi, shpresa, dashuria, dija. Por, k\u00ebt\u00eb dije, ne e v\u00ebm\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00ebn dhe mbysim t\u00eb gjitha d\u00ebshirat e tjera jet\u00ebsore t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs”. Flasim p\u00ebr nj\u00eb besim t\u00eb fort\u00eb q\u00eb buron nga nj\u00eb besim i gjall\u00eb. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb Edmond Rochedieu n\u00eb librin e tij “Drejt thell\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb shpirtit” shkruan: “N\u00eb shpirtin e njeriut digjet nj\u00eb flak\u00eb e brendshme dhe rrezet e saj ndri\u00e7ojn\u00eb dhe ngrohin jo vet\u00ebm personin, por direkt ose indirekt gjith\u00eb ambientin e tij”. Dhe pik\u00ebrisht nga ky fuqizim duam t\u00eb privojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb, t\u00eb shuajm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb flak\u00eb.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb thelb, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta ushqejm\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn fetare e mbysim dhe e shtypim. Kuptimi i Per\u00ebndis\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i mbjell\u00eb tek njeriu, por n\u00ebse nuk drejtohet n\u00eb koh\u00eb rrezikojm\u00eb t\u00eb krijojm\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb rritur q\u00eb nuk ka asnj\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr lutje.<\/p>\n
\u00c7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb? Shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra. T\u00eb rishikojm\u00eb q\u00ebllimet e arsimit ton\u00eb, sepse arsimim duam t’u japim f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb jo njohuri t\u00eb p\u00ebrcipta. T’u japim mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7lodhen. “Teknika e pushimit sjell rezultatin e teknik\u00ebs s\u00eb pun\u00ebs.” – shkruan Andre Maurois. T’i rrethojm\u00eb me dashuri, sepse kjo dashuri \u00ebsht\u00eb klima m\u00eb rezultative p\u00ebr zhvillimin e p\u00ebrparimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. “G\u00ebzimi q\u00eb sundon n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi \u00e7do or\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb faktor ekuilibri e harmonie p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn – shkruan Suzanne Simon – nj\u00eb burim g\u00ebzimi q\u00eb do reflektoj\u00eb tek f\u00ebmija dhe do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb duke k\u00ebnduar n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb.” Kjo shkoll\u00eb duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb shkoll\u00eb zemre dhe shpirti q\u00eb do p\u00ebrgatis\u00eb njer\u00ebz t\u00eb ekuilibruar.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrgatiti: Nafsika Melo<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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