Q\u00eb t\u00eb jem e sinqert\u00eb, u ndjeva ngusht\u00eb me k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb pasi nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb njoh pretendimet e prind\u00ebrve dhe antagonizmin e friksh\u00ebm t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb sotme dhe nga ana tjet\u00ebr njoh nevojat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. T’i bashkojm\u00eb t\u00eb dyja? \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. Preferoj t’ju problematizoj dhe t\u00eb theksoj q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim disa gj\u00ebra q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb kemi parasysh gjat\u00eb periudh\u00ebs shkollore t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb.<\/p>\n
– Puna e tepruar \u00ebsht\u00eb armike e pun\u00ebs s\u00eb mir\u00eb.
\n– T\u00eb ndihmosh nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb punoj\u00eb, nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se punoj me t\u00eb, p\u00ebrkundrazi e m\u00ebsoj q\u00eb t\u00eb punoj\u00eb vet\u00eb.
\n– F\u00ebmija ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb kultivim t\u00eb mir\u00eb njohurish dhe jo p\u00ebr nj\u00eb llust\u00ebr njohurish.
\n– Njeriu i sot\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb p\u00ebrgatit dhe brumos mosha f\u00ebminore.
\n– P\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia e prind\u00ebrve \u00ebsht\u00eb e till\u00eb, q\u00eb vet\u00ebm Per\u00ebndia mund t\u00eb jap\u00eb urt\u00ebsi, q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebri dhe dashurin\u00eb q\u00eb u duhet p\u00ebr t’u p\u00ebrgjigjur.
\n– Rris si\u00e7 duhet f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se, e ndihmoj t\u00eb b\u00ebhet ai q\u00eb duhet dhe se, i gjendem pran\u00eb sa her\u00eb q\u00eb ai ka nevoj\u00eb.<\/p>\n
S\u00eb pari: “Filloni t\u00eb njihni f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tuaj, sepse sigurisht nuk e njihni.”<\/p>\n
S\u00eb dyti: “Njihni nevojat dhe interesat e tij dhe mundohuni t’i plot\u00ebsoni”.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr t\u00eb dyja k\u00ebto \u00e7\u00ebshtje jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb studime nga pedagog\u00eb dhe biolog\u00eb t\u00eb njohur.<\/p>\n
Le t\u00eb njohim f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e dit\u00ebve t\u00eb sotme. \u00cbsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija q\u00eb e zgjojm\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes p\u00ebr ta \u00e7uar n\u00eb kopsht, se n\u00ebna punon dhe kjo b\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb mos ngopet edhe me gjum\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija dhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7ar, q\u00eb kur i jep dhurat\u00ebn e Krishtlindjes dhe e pyet n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur, ai p\u00ebrgjigjet: “Un\u00eb jam i k\u00ebnaqur kur njer\u00ebzit duhen dhe jam fatkeq kur njer\u00ebzit zihen”. (Thot\u00eb f\u00ebmija me prind\u00ebr t\u00eb divorcuar.)<\/p>\n
Jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e mbyllur t\u00eb apartamenteve, q\u00eb nuk shijojn\u00eb natyr\u00ebn dhe lagjen. \u00cbsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija i vet\u00ebm i familjes, i destinuar t\u00eb rritet vet\u00ebm. \u00cbsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija me “\u00e7el\u00ebsin n\u00eb qaf\u00eb”. K\u00ebshtu jan\u00eb quajtur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e dit\u00ebve tona, q\u00eb hapin der\u00ebn dhe hyjn\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb apartament bosh, se t\u00eb gjith\u00eb punojn\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija i televizorit, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb shoq\u00ebria e tij e vetme. (N\u00eb shum\u00eb familje luan rolin e kujdestares.) Koh\u00ebt e fundit televizori \u00ebsht\u00eb quajtur “prind\u00ebrit e dyt\u00eb”. \u00cbsht\u00eb f\u00ebmija me v\u00ebshtrimin e pal\u00ebvizsh\u00ebm dhe zemr\u00ebn e mbyllur, q\u00eb jeton n\u00eb bot\u00ebn me munges\u00ebn e oksigjenit shpirt\u00ebror p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin ka shum\u00eb nevoj\u00eb.<\/p>\n
1 – S\u00eb pari dominon nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur nj\u00eb klim\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme familjare, por do t\u00eb ndalemi m\u00eb gjat\u00eb.<\/p>\n
2 – Nevoja e gjumit, e domosdoshme p\u00ebr shp\u00ebtimin e shpirtit dhe trupit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Gjumi i tij duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i qet\u00eb. Kur gjumi i f\u00ebmij\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb i shqet\u00ebsuar duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb shkakun (sigurisht ka lidhje me mjedisin familjar).<\/p>\n
3 – Nevoja e l\u00ebvizjes. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebri organike kaq e madhe sa edhe nevoja e ushqimit.<\/p>\n
4 – Nevoja p\u00ebr natyr\u00ebn. \u00cbsht\u00eb e domosdoshme dhe thelb\u00ebsore q\u00eb f\u00ebmija t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb sa m\u00eb tep\u00ebr n\u00eb natyr\u00eb, n\u00eb drit\u00eb, n\u00eb diell: t\u00eb loz\u00eb, t\u00eb hidhet, t\u00eb b\u00ebhet me balt\u00eb, t\u00eb laget, t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb disa or\u00eb jet\u00eb fiziologjike. Jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb simpoziume bot\u00ebrore p\u00ebr pushimet e t\u00eb dielave. Me gjith\u00eb disavantazhet (lodhje, m\u00eb pak rendiment pune t\u00eb h\u00ebn\u00ebn) psikiatr\u00ebt dhe psikolog\u00ebt e shohin si t\u00eb dobishme dhe bien dakord se, sipas mund\u00ebsive, k\u00ebt\u00eb duhet t\u00eb synojm\u00eb. K\u00ebtu duhet t\u00eb theksojm\u00eb se kjo nuk duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb kurriz t\u00eb ardhjes n\u00eb kish\u00eb t\u00eb dielave, se edhe kisha luan nj\u00eb rol t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
5 – Nevoja p\u00ebr nj\u00eb qoshe personale. Guy Jacquin, lidhur me k\u00ebt\u00eb, n\u00eb librin e tij “Drejtimet e m\u00ebdha t\u00eb psikologjis\u00eb s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs” shkruan: “N\u00ebse nuk ka nj\u00eb vend ku t\u00eb fsheh\u00eb thesaret dhe sekretet e tij, do t’i fsheh\u00eb n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e tij dhe kjo do t’u mbetet e mbyllur p\u00ebr gjithnj\u00eb.” P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn, mjafton t’i japim nj\u00eb sirtar t\u00eb komos\u00eb.<\/p>\n
6 – Nevoja p\u00ebr sorollatje. Na duket sikur f\u00ebmija humb koh\u00ebn kot, n\u00eb realitet e fiton, se me k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb gjall\u00ebrohet dhe drejtohet nga krijimtaria. Nuk ka gj\u00eb m\u00eb frytdh\u00ebn\u00ebse dhe fuqizuese se fantazia. Jepini, pra koh\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb, mos ia kurseni.<\/p>\n
7 – Dashuria p\u00ebr Per\u00ebndin\u00eb. Nevoja t\u00eb shijoj\u00eb Per\u00ebndin\u00eb, t\u00eb komunikoj\u00eb me t\u00eb, t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb brenda hirit t\u00eb Tij \u00ebsht\u00eb sot nj\u00eb nevoj\u00eb e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt bot\u00ebrore, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn na flasin korifejt\u00eb e psikologjis\u00eb bot\u00ebrore si: Yung, Maeder, Charles Baudouin. “Q\u00eb nga preh\u00ebri i n\u00ebn\u00ebs f\u00ebmija e ka p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilloj\u00eb besimin e tij tek nj\u00eb Per\u00ebndi i drejt\u00eb, i p\u00ebrkryer dhe i t\u00ebr\u00ebshenjt\u00eb q\u00eb do ta mbroj\u00eb me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn mas\u00eb q\u00eb ai do vihet n\u00ebn mbrojtjen e tij; – shkruan n\u00eb librin e saj “Edukimi dhe familja” pedagogia zviceriane Suzanne Simon. Dhe vazhdon: “Sipas rregullit t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm, kur besimi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb rr\u00ebnjosur gjat\u00eb mosh\u00ebs f\u00ebminore ndikimi yn\u00eb n\u00eb adoleshenc\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kalimtar”.<\/p>\n
Le t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojm\u00eb tek nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje. Prind\u00ebrit mendojn\u00eb se f\u00ebmija duhet t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb, n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur, shkrim dhe lexim q\u00eb n\u00eb kopsht, t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb t\u00eb huaja, kompjuter, muzik\u00eb, not, tenis. T\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb, t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb… Po, harrova. Duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb edhe i pari i klas\u00ebs ose i dyti. T\u00eb pakt\u00ebn brenda pes\u00ebshes m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb shkoll\u00ebs…<\/p>\n
(Vijon n\u00eb numrin e ardhsh\u00ebm)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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