“E gjith\u00eb jeta e njeriut mund t\u00eb ngacmohet nga bukuria e t\u00eb dielave gjat\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb”, – shkruan nj\u00eb pedagoge zvicerane, n\u00eb librin e saj “Edukimi n\u00eb familje”. Po ne, prind\u00ebrit, e kemi ndjer\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e s\u00eb diel\u00ebs n\u00eb edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb?<\/p>\n
E diela \u00ebsht\u00eb dhurat\u00eb Per\u00ebndie; dita e Zotit; dit\u00eb e Ndritshme. Si t\u00eb till\u00eb duhet ta p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb, t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj e t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl, n\u00ebse duam q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb jet\u00eb burim g\u00ebzimi, dashurie, rilindje e qet\u00ebsimi.<\/p>\n
T\u00eb till\u00eb duhet q\u00eb ta ndjej\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmija. E diela \u00ebsht\u00eb dita q\u00eb familja duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mbledhur. N\u00eb dit\u00ebt e tjera t\u00eb jav\u00ebs pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e familjes shihen me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi. E diela u jep mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb jen\u00eb s\u00eb bashku n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb dit\u00eb t\u00eb g\u00ebzuar. Esht\u00eb bukur, q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb s\u00eb bashku, t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb kish\u00eb. N\u00eb adhurimin e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt t\u00eb \u00e7lodhin shpirtrat, t\u00eb marrin fuqi p\u00ebr p\u00ebrpjekjet e jav\u00ebs q\u00eb vjen.<\/p>\n
Tema jon\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb: “E Diela n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs”. E zgjodh\u00ebm, sepse n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e sotme kjo dit\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shp\u00ebrdoruar dhe e ka humbur kuptimin e saj t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb pedagog\u00eb dhe psikolog\u00eb bashk\u00ebkohor\u00eb jan\u00eb ndalur me respekt p\u00ebrpara r\u00ebnd\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb saj t\u00eb madhe. Ata theksojn\u00eb s\u00eb t\u00eb dielat n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn f\u00ebminore p\u00ebrgatisin t\u00eb dielat e mosh\u00ebs s\u00eb pjekuris\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Pra, si do ta p\u00ebrjetoj\u00eb f\u00ebmija t\u00eb diel\u00ebn n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb, q\u00eb ta p\u00ebrgatis\u00eb e frym\u00ebzoj\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhet i pjekur n\u00eb jet\u00eb? Fol\u00ebm p\u00ebr kuptimin fetar t\u00eb s\u00eb diel\u00ebs, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme ta shikojm\u00eb edhe nga ana arg\u00ebtuese. Prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb mos mendojn\u00eb se duke i \u00e7uar f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb kish\u00eb mbaroi detyra e tyre. Natyrisht q\u00eb jo.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb ende n\u00eb gjendje q\u00eb t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb bukurin\u00eb e himnologjis\u00eb, shenjt\u00ebrin\u00eb e Mistereve. Shum\u00eb prej tyre edhe lodhen n\u00eb kish\u00eb. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, programi i s\u00eb diel\u00ebs duhet t’i preokupoj\u00eb seriozisht prind\u00ebrit.<\/p>\n
E diela duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb arsye e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve familjare, p\u00ebr lidhje m\u00eb t\u00eb forta. K\u00ebt\u00eb dit\u00eb f\u00ebmija duhet t\u00eb shijoj\u00eb pranin\u00eb e prind\u00ebrve n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, pranin\u00eb e v\u00ebllez\u00ebrve, t\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrm\u00ebve. “T\u00eb gjitha i kam, por do doja q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb rrinin m\u00eb shum\u00eb me mua, t\u00eb loznin me mua”, – thon\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
Si mund t\u00eb realizohet, q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb g\u00ebzojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku. K\u00ebtu nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi se \u00e7far\u00eb do b\u00ebjn\u00eb prind\u00ebrit, por si do ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se k\u00ebt\u00eb dit\u00eb prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb t\u00eb tyre, do lozin me ta, do bisedojn\u00eb bashk\u00eb, do k\u00ebndojn\u00eb, do t’i pyesin. Tryeza e s\u00eb diel\u00ebs duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb festive. Me p\u00ebrgatitjen e saj duhet t\u00eb merren t\u00eb gjith\u00eb pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e familjes.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebshtu f\u00ebmij\u00ebt do t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e k\u00ebsaj dite. Nga ana tjet\u00ebr dreka e s\u00eb diel\u00ebs duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb, q\u00eb n\u00ebna t\u00eb ket\u00eb mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb bisedoj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Mbas kish\u00ebs, mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen edhe vizita tek t\u00eb af\u00ebrmit, nj\u00eb piknik, q\u00eb t\u00eb g\u00ebzojn\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb s\u00eb bashku. T\u00eb diel\u00ebn mund t\u00eb ftojm\u00eb p\u00ebr drek\u00eb nj\u00eb mik t\u00eb babait ose nj\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrm. K\u00ebshtu f\u00ebmija brumoset me familjen, g\u00ebzon, \u00ebsht\u00eb krenar p\u00ebr at\u00eb e s’e bren vetmia de indiferenca e prind\u00ebrve.<\/p>\n
Duam q\u00eb f\u00ebmija yn\u00eb t\u00eb mbetet i vog\u00ebl e jasht\u00eb problemeve t\u00eb koh\u00ebs? Le t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u00eb mbushim koh\u00ebn e tyre me gj\u00ebra t\u00eb bukura. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, Sh\u00ebn Joani i Shkall\u00ebs shkruan: “Vet\u00ebm k\u00ebng\u00eb p\u00ebr Zotin psalni, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos m\u00ebkatoni me k\u00ebng\u00eb t\u00eb turpshme e t\u00eb pap\u00ebrshtatshme”, dhe n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend tjet\u00ebr thot\u00eb: “Trego an\u00ebn e mir\u00eb e hiqi syt\u00eb q\u00eb atje, shiko qiellin, diellin, yjet, lulet e dheut, pem\u00ebt e librat e hijsh\u00ebm”.<\/p>\n
E diela \u00ebsht\u00eb dita e dhoksologjis\u00eb s\u00eb Per\u00ebndis\u00eb dhe dita e grumbullimit t\u00eb familjes. E diela quhet si dita e dashuris\u00eb. Esht\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb dit\u00eb s\u00eb bashku me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb shkojm\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vizituar ndonj\u00eb t\u00eb moshuar ose t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb, q\u00eb f\u00ebmija t\u00eb ndiej\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr dashuri e respekt. Kjo dashuri \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb zgjat m\u00eb shum\u00eb.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse dikush ka ndonj\u00eb problem dhe ne e diskutojm\u00eb n\u00eb tryez\u00ebn e s\u00eb diel\u00ebs kjo indirekt do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet e pranueshme nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, mjafton q\u00eb ne t\u00eb mos ushtrojm\u00eb presion. Jeta e krishter\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e pashtershme, \u00ebsht\u00eb krijuese.<\/p>\n
Njeriu i sot\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb pasiv dhe tek kjo influencon shum\u00eb televizori, por brenda tij ka nj\u00eb fuqi t\u00eb madhe krijuese. N\u00ebse ne nuk e transmetojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb, rrezikojm\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos u krijojm\u00eb mund\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb pavarur, krijuese. Jepuni f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tuaj frym\u00ebzim, krijimtari, oferta dhe e diela do b\u00ebhet burim i pashtersh\u00ebm g\u00ebzimi e krijimi p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre.<\/p>\n
Gjat\u00eb t\u00eb diel\u00ebs, n\u00eb nj\u00eb or\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar, s\u00eb bashku me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt mund t\u00eb lexoni ndonj\u00eb revist\u00eb t\u00eb kish\u00ebs p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00eb, ose pjes\u00eb nga Ungjilli. T\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto nuk duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhen me detyrim, por me nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb natyrshme, pa i lodhur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe duke u lexuar gj\u00ebra t\u00eb reja. Q\u00eb k\u00ebto biseda t\u00eb jen\u00eb frytdh\u00ebn\u00ebse duhet t\u00eb krijojm\u00eb nj\u00eb klim\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme, q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb shprehin lirsh\u00ebm mendimin e tyre. Kjo ka mjaft r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, sepse iu hap rrug\u00ebn p\u00ebr nj\u00eb vend t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Duhet t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se e diela p\u00ebrb\u00ebn baz\u00ebn e edukimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve jo vet\u00ebm nga kuptimi i saj, por kryesisht nga mund\u00ebsia e koh\u00ebs s\u00eb lir\u00eb q\u00eb na v\u00eb n\u00eb dispozicion p\u00ebr t\u00eb punuar me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
Por, q\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto t\u00eb b\u00ebhen realitet k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb mund, p\u00ebrpjekje, lodhje. Lind pyetja: Po ne prind\u00ebrit nuk kemi nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr pushim? P\u00ebrgjigjja \u00ebsht\u00eb: Jo! Lind pyetja tjet\u00ebr: Esht\u00eb m\u00eb e lodhshme t\u00eb kalojm\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb or\u00eb t\u00eb dielave, ose gjat\u00eb jav\u00ebs me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb, apo t\u00eb kalojm\u00eb net\u00eb pa gjum\u00eb, ankth duke par\u00eb akrepat e sahatit kur do hapet dera p\u00ebr t\u00eb hyr\u00eb i riu dhe sidomos adoleshenti ose adoleshentja.<\/p>\n
Po. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb realiteti i sot\u00ebm. \u00c7do epok\u00eb ka rreziqet e saj, por sot ato jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb shumta: Rrymat e ndryshme heretike, satanist\u00ebt, televizori, narkotik\u00ebt q\u00eb vdesin njer\u00ebz, t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto i v\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb n\u00eb pozicion t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. Shpesh jan\u00eb pyetjet e shok\u00ebve, ironia e tyre, ndrydhja nga vetja q\u00eb i sjell n\u00eb pozit\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb. N\u00ebse nuk ju kemi krijuar ekuilib\u00ebr rrezikojn\u00eb t’i rr\u00ebmbej\u00eb rryma. Pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebt\u00eb duhet t\u00eb shmangim.<\/p>\n
Mjek\u00ebt na k\u00ebshillojn\u00eb parandalim, pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebt\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr shpirtin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. N\u00ebse f\u00ebmija e fillon jav\u00ebn pas nj\u00eb t\u00eb diele t\u00eb g\u00ebzuar, me moral t\u00eb ngritur ai \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb p\u00ebrballet me ngasjet, t’u kthej\u00eb shpin\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb ironit\u00eb e shok\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
Do ishte fatale n\u00ebse ua paraqesim f\u00ebmij\u00ebve jet\u00ebn si shterp\u00eb, negative, t\u00eb mbushur me gj\u00ebra t\u00eb ndaluara. Jeta nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb negative, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht jeta e krishter\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Duhet t\u00eb kujdesemi q\u00eb t\u00eb krijojm\u00eb tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb raste p\u00ebr “vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsim”. Esht\u00eb nj\u00eb arm\u00eb e fuqishme shpirt\u00ebrore n\u00eb duart e tyre, e cila e shoq\u00ebruar dhe me lutjet tona, do t’i ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb jetojn\u00eb sipas Ungjillorit Joan: “T\u00eb rinj, t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb fort\u00eb” dhe k\u00ebshtu p\u00ebrballen fitimtar\u00eb me jet\u00ebn”.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrktheu: Nafsika Melo<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Artikull i p\u00ebrkthyer nga Nafsika Melo p\u00ebr r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e s\u00eb diel\u00ebs n\u00eb edukimin familjar t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. E diela si dhurat\u00eb Per\u00ebndie duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb dit\u00eb e familjes, e kish\u00ebs, e loj\u00ebs, e bised\u00ebs dhe e edukimit shpirt\u00ebror, q\u00eb p\u00ebrgatit f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb p\u00ebrballet me sfidat e adoleshenc\u00ebs.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"nentitulli":"","numri":"11 (130)","viti":"2003","muaji":"Nentor","muaji_numer":"11","dita":"","faqet":"[11]","fjale_kyce":"[\"e diel\u00eb\", \"f\u00ebmij\u00eb\", \"familje\", \"edukim\", \"Sh\u00ebn Joani i Shkall\u00ebs\", \"Nafsika Melo\", \"prind\u00ebr\", \"kish\u00eb\", \"dashuri\", \"Ungjilli\", \"adoleshent\", \"televizor\", \"satanist\u00eb\", \"narkotik\u00eb\", \"rini\"]","permbledhje":"Artikull i p\u00ebrkthyer nga Nafsika Melo p\u00ebr r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e s\u00eb diel\u00ebs n\u00eb edukimin familjar t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. E diela si dhurat\u00eb Per\u00ebndie duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb dit\u00eb e familjes, e kish\u00ebs, e loj\u00ebs, e bised\u00ebs dhe e edukimit shpirt\u00ebror, q\u00eb p\u00ebrgatit f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb p\u00ebrballet me sfidat e adoleshenc\u00ebs.","autori":"P\u00ebrktheu: Nafsika Melo","kategoria":"Edukim - Familje","kryeredaktor":"Thoma Dhima"},"ngjallja_kategoria":[10074],"ngjallja_autori":[10412],"ngjallja_viti":[10935],"ngjallja_kryeredaktor":[9473],"class_list":["post-86319","ngjallja_article","type-ngjallja_article","status-publish","hentry","ngjallja_kategoria-edukim-familje","ngjallja_autori-perktheu-nafsika-melo","ngjallja_viti-10935","ngjallja_kryeredaktor-thoma-dhima"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n