(Vijon nga numri i kaluar)<\/p>\n
Pavar\u00ebsisht nga ndryshimet q\u00eb krijohen p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb natyr\u00ebs familjare, \u00e7’ndryshime t\u00eb tjera kemi? Dhe, a jan\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb kaq t\u00eb m\u00ebdha?<\/p>\n
Shpeshher\u00eb jan\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb vogla, t\u00eb par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme n\u00eb fillim, por p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb n\u00eb grindje t\u00eb m\u00ebdha q\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb t\u00ebrmete t\u00eb fuqishme n\u00eb zemrat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. P\u00ebr shembull, n\u00ebna thot\u00eb: “Vish triko se ftohesh!” dhe babai p\u00ebrgjigjet: “L\u00ebre f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb lirsh\u00ebm. Do plas\u00eb po e veshe”. N\u00ebna thot\u00eb: “L\u00ebri fjal\u00ebt e gjell\u00ebn!” babai nd\u00ebrhyn: “L\u00ebre f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb flas\u00eb, le t\u00eb haj\u00eb vet\u00eb…”. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb vogla, t\u00eb par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, por shkaktojn\u00eb nervoziz\u00ebm tek prind\u00ebrit, lejojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs t\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzoj\u00eb interesin e tij dhe t\u00eb injoroj\u00eb k\u00ebshillat e saj. Dhe sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyrjet b\u00ebhen m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha: “Mbyll goj\u00ebn dhe shko t\u00eb flesh”, “L\u00ebre f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb \u00e7lodhet e ta ler\u00eb gjell\u00ebn” etj…<\/p>\n
Skenat nga jeta e p\u00ebrditshme tregojn\u00eb se me \u00e7far\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsie i p\u00ebrballojm\u00eb problemet e edukimit, q\u00eb shpesh jan\u00eb shkak i grindjeve t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve p\u00ebrpara f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse atmosfera prishet, do ta dim\u00eb mir\u00eb, se suksesi i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve sigurohet n\u00eb atmosfer\u00ebn e qet\u00eb dhe t\u00eb g\u00ebzueshme, q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit kan\u00eb detyr\u00eb ta krijojn\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. T\u00eb gjitha v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga problemet e familjes, ose nga ndryshimi i tyre n\u00eb kultur\u00eb, por edhe nga lodhja, nervozizmi, problemet e vazhdueshme ekonomike etj.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmij\u00ebt, sidomos t\u00eb vegjlit, nuk mund t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb n\u00ebse arsyet jan\u00eb serioze apo t\u00eb par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, por kuptojn\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb, q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit grinden e k\u00ebt\u00eb nuk mund ta pranojn\u00eb kurr\u00ebsesi. Zemrat e tyre tronditen, tremben n\u00eb gjum\u00eb, hutohen n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, han\u00eb thonjt\u00eb, urinojn\u00eb nat\u00ebn dhe ndihen fatkeq\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Kuptojm\u00eb nga vizatimet e lodrat e tyre, se sa thell\u00eb shqet\u00ebsohen ata p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e prind\u00ebrve. N\u00eb kopsht f\u00ebmij\u00ebt vizatojn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb an\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebn me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr baban\u00eb, ose n\u00eb nj\u00eb qoshe n\u00ebn\u00ebn e n\u00eb qoshen tjet\u00ebr baban\u00eb, me nj\u00eb ndarje t\u00eb madhe midis tyre. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb qet\u00eb i vizaton prind\u00ebrit midis luleve. K\u00ebtu nuk p\u00ebrmendim f\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb me prind\u00ebr t\u00eb divorcuar, por vet\u00ebm ata q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb atmosfer\u00eb t\u00eb nder\u00eb n\u00eb familje.<\/p>\n
Profesor Brazeson n\u00eb librin “Familjet n\u00eb kriz\u00eb”, shkruan: “Ju k\u00ebshilloj t\u00eb zgjidhni llogarit\u00eb me letra t\u00eb hapura, larg pranis\u00eb s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve”.<\/p>\n
Mosmarr\u00ebveshjet e grindjet e prind\u00ebrve p\u00ebrpara f\u00ebmij\u00ebve nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm probleme t\u00eb vogla, q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit duhet t’i bisedojn\u00eb ve\u00e7. K\u00ebto mosmarr\u00ebveshje, t\u00eb logjikshme, duhet t\u00eb mos b\u00ebhen t\u00eb kapshme nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt.<\/p>\n
“N\u00ebse prind\u00ebrit do ta dinin at\u00eb q\u00eb realisht p\u00ebrjeton f\u00ebmija i tyre, kurr\u00eb nuk do ziheshin p\u00ebrpara tij, kurr\u00eb nuk do silleshin n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ashp\u00ebr e aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr nuk do arrinin n\u00eb divorc”, – thekson nj\u00eb psikologe pas nj\u00eb studimi q\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e ardhur nga familje t\u00eb tilla t\u00eb tronditura.<\/p>\n
Pra, nuk ka zgjidhje? Sigurisht q\u00eb ka, ndaj dhe e bisedojm\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Si\u00e7 e theksuam edhe n\u00eb fillim, nuk ka mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb t\u00eb mos ket\u00eb pik\u00ebpamje t\u00eb ndryshme, sepse natyrat e burrave dhe t\u00eb grave jan\u00eb kaq t\u00eb ndryshme, por k\u00ebto ndryshime ta vogla t\u00eb mos luajn\u00eb rol n\u00eb edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Ajo q\u00eb luan nj\u00eb rol t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb atmosfera e nder\u00eb dhe k\u00ebsaj duhet t’i shmangemi. Le t\u00eb bisedojm\u00eb ve\u00e7mas dhe kurr\u00eb p\u00ebrpara f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, se ai k\u00ebto grindje do t’i p\u00ebrdor\u00eb p\u00ebr interesat e tij dhe kjo e d\u00ebmton.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse f\u00ebmija \u00ebsht\u00eb i rritur, prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb bisedojn\u00eb bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb, duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb: “Na shqet\u00ebson p\u00ebrparimi yt n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, ose sh\u00ebndeti yt, ose d\u00ebshira jote p\u00ebr muzik\u00eb etj. Ta dish se vendimi yn\u00eb e ka baz\u00ebn tek dashuria jon\u00eb p\u00ebr ty”. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb rritet me ndjnj\u00ebn se prind\u00ebrit interesohen p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndjen siguri. \u00c7do f\u00ebmij\u00eb duhet t\u00eb dij\u00eb se e duam, por nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht, si prind\u00ebr, mund t’i themi dhe “jo” ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Psiqiatrja Louise Despert na thot\u00eb: “N\u00ebse do mund t’u jepja prind\u00ebrve nj\u00eb recet\u00eb do t’u thosha: “Jepuni f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tuaj nj\u00eb dashuri pa kufi dhe shijoni bashk\u00eb me ta nj\u00eb harmoni t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb.” dhe vazhdon “P\u00ebrve\u00e7 nj\u00eb ushqimi t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpie t\u00eb rregulluar f\u00ebmija ka pak nevoja t\u00eb tjera materiale, kurse nevojat e tij shpirt\u00ebrore jan\u00eb t\u00eb thjeshta, por t\u00eb domosdoshme. N\u00ebse k\u00ebto n\u00ebvoja nuk i k\u00ebnaqin asgj\u00eb nuk mund t’i z\u00ebvend\u00ebsoj\u00eb, n\u00ebse i ka asgj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr nuk i mungon”.<\/p>\n
S\u00eb fundi, n\u00ebse n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ast f\u00ebmija kupton di\u00e7ka le t\u00eb pranojm\u00eb me thjesht\u00ebsi, se edhe ne kemi probleme, bisedojm\u00eb, ndoj\u00ebher\u00eb edhe nevrikosemi, por pas pak pajtohemi se n\u00ebna dhe babai duhen. Kryesisht le t’i sigurojm\u00eb se i duam shum\u00eb dhe kjo do t\u00eb jet\u00eb dhurata m\u00eb e madhe q\u00eb do t’u japim.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Artikull mbi efektin negativ t\u00eb grindjeve t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve para f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Citohen profesor Brazeson dhe psikiatrja Louise Despert mbi r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e atmosfer\u00ebs s\u00eb qet\u00eb n\u00eb familje dhe ndikimin e mosmarr\u00ebveshjeve t\u00eb hapura te zhvillimi psikologjik i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"nentitulli":"","numri":"10 (97)","viti":"2000","muaji":"Tetor","muaji_numer":"10","dita":"","faqet":"[10]","fjale_kyce":"[\"familje\", \"prind\u00ebr\", \"f\u00ebmij\u00eb\", \"grindje\", \"psikologji\", \"Brazeson\", \"Louise Despert\", \"edukim\", \"dashuri prind\u00ebrore\"]","permbledhje":"Artikull mbi efektin negativ t\u00eb grindjeve t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve para f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Citohen profesor Brazeson dhe psikiatrja Louise Despert mbi r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e atmosfer\u00ebs s\u00eb qet\u00eb n\u00eb familje dhe ndikimin e mosmarr\u00ebveshjeve t\u00eb hapura te zhvillimi psikologjik i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.","autori":"P\u00ebrktheu: N. Melo","kategoria":"Familja","kryeredaktor":"Thoma Dhima"},"ngjallja_kategoria":[10796],"ngjallja_autori":[10797],"ngjallja_viti":[10644],"ngjallja_kryeredaktor":[9473],"class_list":["post-85135","ngjallja_article","type-ngjallja_article","status-publish","hentry","ngjallja_kategoria-familja","ngjallja_autori-perktheu-n-melo","ngjallja_viti-10644","ngjallja_kryeredaktor-thoma-dhima"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n