Nj\u00eb aksiom\u00eb edukimi thot\u00eb: “Esht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb hesht\u00ebsh, sesa t\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtosh hapur p\u00ebrpara f\u00ebmij\u00ebve p\u00ebr nj\u00eb mas\u00eb pedagogjike q\u00eb nuk t\u00eb p\u00eblqen”. N\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e vlefshme n\u00eb familje. Sa grindje do ishin shmangur n\u00ebse t\u00eb dy prind\u00ebrit do p\u00ebrpiqeshin ta p\u00ebrqafonin k\u00ebt\u00eb ide.<\/p>\n
Natyrisht, edhe n\u00eb \u00e7iftet m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosura nuk do ishte e mundur t\u00eb k\u00ebrkonin p\u00ebrputhje mendimesh n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha temat, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00eb ato t\u00eb edukimit. Nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb do t\u00eb k\u00ebrkonte humbjen e nj\u00ebrit nga t\u00eb dyve p\u00ebrpara tjetrit. Kjo do ishte e pad\u00ebshirueshme dhe paralelisht e rrezikshme e q\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb do shkaktonte rreziqe t\u00eb tjera. Pik\u00ebpamjet e ndryshme t\u00eb \u00e7iftit jan\u00eb t\u00eb gabuara vet\u00ebm kur p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb n\u00eb grindje.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb librin “Nga psikologjia e martes\u00ebs”, shkruhet: “Teknika e jet\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb se si diferencat t\u00eb b\u00ebhen krijimtari, mjet p\u00ebr bashkim, p\u00ebr lul\u00ebzimin e pjestar\u00ebve t\u00eb familjes. Gishtat nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebllojt\u00eb, por kur bashk\u00ebpunojn\u00eb formojn\u00eb dor\u00ebn”.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebshtu \u00e7ifti, n\u00ebse pranon t\u00eb ndaj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebn, kultur\u00ebn, bot\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb ndjenjave, mund t\u00eb formojn\u00eb nj\u00eb mir\u00ebkuptim t\u00eb mir\u00eb e t\u00eb thell\u00eb p\u00ebr reagimet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, q\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebsi i suksesit n\u00eb edukimin e tyre.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr ta kuptuar sa e vlefshme \u00ebsht\u00eb bashk\u00ebekzistenca dhe bashk\u00ebpunimi i \u00e7iftit n\u00eb temat e edukimit, mjafton t\u00eb pyesim n\u00ebn\u00ebn ose baban\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrballojn\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebm problemet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb t\u00eb mbeturit t\u00eb ve ose t\u00eb divorcit.<\/p>\n
Sa her\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulja e n\u00ebn\u00ebs ose e babait ashp\u00ebrson inatin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe nuk gjendet askush t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb atmosfer\u00ebn. Por, ky ndryshim i \u00ebsht\u00eb i leht\u00eb t\u00eb realizohet, kur prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb bien dakord ose t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin natyrat e tyre t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb karakterit dhe t\u00eb zakoneve kundrejt f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Emb\u00eblsia dhe q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebria, manovrimi dhe papajtueshm\u00ebria, bindja dhe detyrimi kombinohen pa ardhur kurr\u00eb n\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtim. Shohim q\u00eb nj\u00ebri e t\u00ebrhoqi m\u00eb tep\u00ebr litarin sesa duhet. Kemi mund\u00ebsin\u00eb e \u00e7muar t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyrjes s\u00eb tjetrit.<\/p>\n
Shpesh, n\u00eb thell\u00ebsin\u00eb e ashp\u00ebrsis\u00eb s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, n\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtimin inat\u00e7i t\u00eb tij, dallojm\u00eb nj\u00eb nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb madhe p\u00ebr dhembshuri, nj\u00eb k\u00ebrkim t\u00eb zjarrt\u00eb p\u00ebr dashuri p\u00ebr shembull n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e lindjes s\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb familje ose n\u00eb nj\u00eb disfat\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, n\u00ebse n\u00eb rr\u00ebmujat e tij, q\u00eb shpesh her\u00eb b\u00ebhen t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, p\u00ebrgjigjemi me buz\u00ebqeshje, do t\u00eb lejojm\u00eb t\u00eb krijohet nj\u00eb p\u00ebrshtypje e gabuar, q\u00eb do t\u00eb merret si inkurajim p\u00ebr ashp\u00ebrsin\u00eb e tij. N\u00ebse nj\u00ebri nga prind\u00ebrit p.sh babai arrin t\u00eb mbetet larg episodit ose t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb sikur s’e vuri re, at\u00ebher\u00eb asgj\u00eb nuk do ta pengoj\u00eb, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7ast t\u00eb \u00e7muar q\u00eb t’i tregoj\u00eb rebelit t\u00eb vog\u00ebl dashuri, ta rrethoj\u00eb me besim, t’i jap\u00eb fitoren q\u00eb e ka kaq nevoj\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb rigjej\u00eb sigurin\u00eb dhe t\u00eb fitoj\u00eb qet\u00ebsin\u00eb e tij.<\/p>\n
Uniteti i prind\u00ebrve shton autoritetin, i jep lirshm\u00ebri l\u00ebvizjeve t\u00eb tyre, krijon siguri dhe do thoshim, krijon nj\u00eb dinjitet q\u00eb prek dhe fuqizon f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Sot, q\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka rreth nesh l\u00ebkundet, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndjejn\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpit\u00eb e tyre sigurin\u00eb q\u00eb buron nga uniteti i prind\u00ebrve. Esht\u00eb treguar si mjekimi m\u00eb i fuqish\u00ebm n\u00eb qet\u00ebsin\u00eb e tyre.<\/p>\n
Louis Despert, mjeke psikiatre shkruan: “Brenda grupit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve q\u00eb paraqesin tronditje psiqike shumica e tyre vijn\u00eb nga familje me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb tronditura bashk\u00ebshortore, pavar\u00ebsisht n\u00ebse kan\u00eb p\u00ebrfunduar n\u00eb divorc”.<\/p>\n
Derisa kjo qet\u00ebsi familjare \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq e \u00e7muar dhe ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht d\u00ebshira e prind\u00ebrve p\u00ebr edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve le t\u00eb shohim, se \u00e7’\u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb e b\u00ebn t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Para s\u00eb gjithash, q\u00eb t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb themi q\u00eb ky nd\u00ebrtim i familjes krijon v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe shpeshher\u00eb mosmarr\u00ebveshje.<\/p>\n
Mosmarr\u00ebveshje p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs, f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl dhe t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj. N\u00ebse ka mosh\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebraf\u00ebrt problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i leht\u00eb. Po n\u00ebse nj\u00ebri shkon n\u00eb klas\u00ebn e par\u00eb fillore e tjetri n\u00eb gjimnaz, duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb program q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i pranuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb pa barazuar interesat, pa krijuar dyshimin e nj\u00eb sjelljeje padrejt\u00ebsie n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e kthimit e t\u00eb q\u00ebndrimit n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi? Si do realizojm\u00eb edukimin e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin ka nevoj\u00eb \u00e7do f\u00ebmij\u00eb?<\/p>\n
N\u00eb familje edukatori dhe nx\u00ebn\u00ebsi jan\u00eb shum\u00eb af\u00ebr. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt reagojn\u00eb me inat ndaj nj\u00ebrit prind, nd\u00ebrsa d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb tjetrin. Edhe vet\u00eb prind\u00ebrit, pa u nd\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsuar, kan\u00eb dob\u00ebsit\u00eb e tyre tek ndonj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb ngaq\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i s\u00ebmur\u00eb, ose sepse u kujton ndonj\u00eb nga prind\u00ebrit e tyre. Si do v\u00ebm\u00eb kufinj, pa ndaluar iniciativ\u00ebn, pa rafshuar interesat? Kjo dashuri, p\u00ebrkujdesja ngandonj\u00ebher\u00eb e tepruar, duhet t\u00eb ndihmoj\u00eb e jo t\u00eb padrejt\u00ebsoj\u00eb, (p.sh f\u00ebmija t\u00eb arrij\u00eb t\u00eb na thot\u00eb se jemi m\u00eb pak objektiv\u00eb s\u00eb m\u00ebsuesi n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb).<\/p>\n
Gjith\u00eb k\u00ebto ndryshime shkaktojn\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb edukim dhe krijojn\u00eb probleme p\u00ebr p\u00ebrballimin nga vet\u00eb prind\u00ebrit. Vet\u00eb fakti, se n\u00eb familje ka dy m\u00ebsues krijon nj\u00eb realitet dhe midis \u00e7iftit.<\/p>\n
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