Nj\u00ebher\u00eb, nj\u00eb eremit, q\u00eb dallohej p\u00ebr shenjt\u00ebrin\u00eb e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij dhe njohjen e shpirtit njer\u00ebzor, i dha urdh\u00ebr var\u00ebsit t\u00eb tij: “Shkule k\u00ebt\u00eb pem\u00eb nga toka” dhe i tregoi nj\u00eb palm\u00eb t\u00eb re, por q\u00eb kishte shtrir\u00eb rr\u00ebnj\u00eb t\u00eb thella. Duke iu bindur jerondit, vart\u00ebsi u p\u00ebrpoq ta zbatonte, por, megjith\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekjet, nuk mundi ta l\u00ebvizte palm\u00ebn. “Jerond,- i thot\u00eb, – kjo q\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb b\u00ebj \u00ebsht\u00eb krejt\u00ebsisht e pamundur”. At\u00ebher\u00eb, jerondi i tregoi nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, nj\u00eb pem\u00eb t\u00eb brisht\u00eb, q\u00eb vart\u00ebsi e shkuli n\u00eb \u00e7ast e pa asnj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb…<\/p>\n
Duke e krahasuar k\u00ebt\u00eb tregim me pedagogjin\u00eb, shohim se prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb t\u00eb pafuqish\u00ebm para f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb m\u00ebdhenj, n\u00ebse nuk kan\u00eb filluar t\u00eb interesohen p\u00ebr edukimin e tyre q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. Nj\u00eb proverb thot\u00eb se: ‘Ato q\u00eb m\u00ebsohen n\u00eb rini, nuk harrohen n\u00eb pleq\u00ebri”, prandaj Siracidi i urt\u00eb m\u00ebson: ‘A ke f\u00ebmij\u00eb? Jepu m\u00ebsim e, q\u00eb prej rinis\u00eb, m\u00ebsoji ta ulin zverkun” (Libri i Siracidit 7:25).<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb nga arsyet kryesore t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj dukurie duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet tek vet\u00eb prind\u00ebrit. Mjaft nga ata jan\u00eb indiferent\u00eb p\u00ebr edukimin moralo-fetar t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre t\u00eb verbuar nga dashuria e tyre prind\u00ebrore, sa nuk duan t\u00eb shohin tek ata asgj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe. Nuk duan t\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb as v\u00ebrejtjet e njer\u00ebzve largpam\u00ebs dhe refuzojn\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn dhe k\u00ebshillat e mira t\u00eb tyre. Vet\u00ebm kur gabimet f\u00ebminore b\u00ebhen t\u00eb padurueshme edhe p\u00ebr vet\u00eb ata, at\u00ebhere fillojn\u00eb e mendojn\u00eb p\u00ebr ndreqjen e birit ose bij\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n
At\u00ebhere i drejtohen edukimit, por \u00ebsht\u00eb tep\u00ebr von\u00eb.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne \u00ebsht\u00eb e njohur se sa shpejt zhvillohet fara brenda n\u00eb tok\u00eb. Faktor\u00ebt q\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebjn\u00eb zhvillimin fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb veprojn\u00eb. Temperatura dhe lag\u00ebshtira zgjojn\u00eb filizin e ri n\u00eb brend\u00ebsi t\u00eb dheut, i cili, dalngadal\u00eb fillon t\u00eb dal\u00eb n\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaqen e tok\u00ebs. E nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb ndodh edhe me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, q\u00eb si fara, vjen n\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe rritet vazhdimisht. Esht\u00eb e njohur, se natyra njer\u00ebzore kurr\u00eb nuk zhvillohet kaq shpejt dhe nga t\u00eb gjitha an\u00ebt, sa n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn f\u00ebminore. Nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht, kurr\u00eb nuk ka kaq nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesjeje dhe p\u00ebrpjekje, sa n\u00eb vitet e para…<\/p>\n
Meq\u00eb edukimi ka nj\u00eb struktur\u00eb t\u00eb dyfisht\u00eb, nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb t\u00eb shkul\u00eb t\u00eb keqen dhe, nga ana tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb mbjell\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn, duhet t\u00eb fillojn\u00eb edukimin e tyre q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn foshnjore. Disa prind\u00ebr, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht m\u00eb t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb, i shohin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, si lod\u00ebr ose kukull. I ushqejn\u00eb, i v\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb flen\u00eb, i p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelin, lozin dhe g\u00ebzohen me ta, i ruajn\u00eb me \u00e7do m\u00ebnyr\u00eb nga ftohja etj., por p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjerat – len\u00eb t\u00eb vrapoj\u00eb, t\u00eb lozin e t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb \u00e7’t\u00eb duan, mjafton t\u00eb mos i shqet\u00ebsojn\u00eb me z\u00ebrat e qarjet e tyre. P\u00ebr shum\u00eb koh\u00eb, nuk nd\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsohen se ky “engj\u00ebll i adhuruar” \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb realitet nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb kryene\u00e7, grindavec, arrogant, i pabindur, lakmitar e gryk\u00ebs, i keq, derisa nj\u00eb dit\u00eb u hapen syt\u00eb. At\u00ebhere vendosin t\u00eb interesohen p\u00ebr edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb llastuar. Por, prind\u00ebr t\u00eb dashur, tani \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb von\u00eb. Pem\u00ebza tashm\u00eb u rrit.<\/p>\n
Disa prind\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00eb nuk ia arrijn\u00eb q\u00ebllimit, pasi kan\u00eb disa perceptime pedagogjike t\u00eb gabuara, q\u00eb sot jan\u00eb rr\u00ebnjosur n\u00eb mendjen e shum\u00eb njer\u00ebzve, t\u00eb cilat p\u00ebrdoren si pretekst, nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb justifikojn\u00eb t\u00eb metat dhe zakonet e k\u00ebqija t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe, nga ana tjet\u00ebr, q\u00eb t\u00eb mbulojn\u00eb indiferentizmin dhe neglizhenc\u00ebn e prind\u00ebrve p\u00ebr edukimin e drejt\u00eb t\u00eb tyre: Jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, – thon\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e “ndjesh\u00ebm”. A mund t’u japim kaq r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb metave t\u00eb tyre? Me pretendime t\u00eb tilla dhe t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb ngjashme falen zakonisht gjith\u00eb parregullsit\u00eb f\u00ebminore.<\/p>\n
Realisht jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, po \u00e7’f\u00ebmij\u00eb! \u00c7’do t\u00eb dal\u00eb nga ata? P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr: A kan\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb keqen, meq\u00eb jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb? N\u00ebse sht\u00ebpia merr flak\u00eb, mos themi: “Sa zjarr i bukur?” A nuk k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb ndihm\u00eb me t\u00eb gjitha fuqit\u00eb? At\u00ebher\u00eb, si mund t’i shohim f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb me qet\u00ebsi, kur brenda tyre ndizet zjarri i pasioneve, q\u00eb i k\u00ebrc\u00ebnon me shkat\u00ebrrim t\u00eb p\u00ebrkohsh\u00ebm, por edhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetsh\u00ebm?<\/p>\n
Me vitet do fitojn\u00eb edhe dijet, – thon\u00eb disa prind\u00ebr jo shum\u00eb t\u00eb zgjuar. F\u00ebmija do filloj\u00eb t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb dhe do kuptoj\u00eb vet\u00eb se cila \u00ebsht\u00eb e mira dhe e keqja.<\/p>\n
Sa fatal \u00ebsht\u00eb ky mashtrim! Logjika \u00ebsht\u00eb thik\u00eb me dy presa. Njeriu mund ta kthej\u00eb at\u00eb nga e mira ose nga e keqja. Njohja e thjesht\u00eb e s\u00eb mir\u00ebs nuk sh\u00ebrben n\u00eb asgj\u00eb. Duhet, gjithashtu, ta duash t\u00eb mir\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb jesh m\u00ebsuar q\u00eb ta b\u00ebsh at\u00eb. Ndaj, q\u00eb n\u00eb vitet e para f\u00ebmija duhet t\u00eb \u00e7ohet drejt k\u00ebsaj me edukimin, q\u00eb, duke njohur m\u00eb von\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn me logjik\u00eb, ta ushtroj\u00eb me fuqin\u00eb e vullnetit.<\/p>\n
Duke justifikuar fajet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb rinjve, por edhe q\u00ebndrimin e tyre, shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr indiferent\u00eb justifikohen e thon\u00eb: “Nuk mund t\u00eb pretendojm\u00eb e t\u00eb presim virtyte n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn f\u00ebminore.” Po, p\u00ebrse nuk mundemi? Mos vall\u00eb Zoti yn\u00eb Isu Krisht nuk ishte f\u00ebmij\u00eb e i ri, q\u00eb na dha shembull jete p\u00ebr imitim? A nuk p\u00ebrmend Ungjilli se “F\u00ebmija rritej dhe forcohej n\u00eb frym\u00eb, duke qen\u00eb plot dituri dhe Hiri i Per\u00ebndis\u00eb ishte mbi t\u00eb, Isui rritej n\u00eb dituri n\u00eb shtat dhe n\u00eb hir p\u00ebrpara Per\u00ebndis\u00eb dhe njer\u00ebzve”? (Lluka 2:40-52).<\/p>\n
Mos jan\u00eb t\u00eb pakta d\u00ebshmit\u00eb p\u00ebr jet\u00ebt e shenjtor\u00ebve, q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn f\u00ebminore kultivonin virtytet e shpres\u00ebtaris\u00eb, palig\u00ebsis\u00eb? N\u00ebse Shp\u00ebtimtari yn\u00eb thot\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt: “I lini f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb vijn\u00eb tek un\u00eb…” (Mattheu 19: 14) dhe “ai q\u00eb do skandalizoj\u00eb nj\u00eb prej k\u00ebtyre t\u00eb vegj\u00eblve…” (Mattheu 18:6), nga kjo dilka p\u00ebrfundimi se \u00ebsht\u00eb e pamundur tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb realizojn\u00eb virtytin?!<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrkundrazi. Zoti i thot\u00eb k\u00ebto, se virtyti n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e vog\u00ebl \u00ebsht\u00eb i realizuesh\u00ebm, m\u00eb i past\u00ebr, m\u00eb i padjall\u00ebzuar dhe m\u00eb origjinal. Ndaj: Mjer\u00eb prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb jan\u00eb indiferent\u00eb dhe nuk kultivojn\u00eb n\u00eb shpirtrat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre zakonet e mira, prirj\u00ebn dhe drejtimin drejt s\u00eb mir\u00ebs, q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn foshnjore. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb do t’i japin llogari Per\u00ebndis\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ju, prind\u00ebr mos lini pa v\u00ebn\u00eb re \u00e7do shfaqje t\u00eb s\u00eb keqes, edhe tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl, derisa edhe ai ka difektet e tij, pik\u00ebllimin e hidhur t\u00eb m\u00ebkatit t\u00eb trash\u00ebguar nga t\u00eb par\u00ebt. N\u00eb fillim gabimet b\u00ebhen pa vet\u00ebdije, kurse m\u00eb von\u00eb me nd\u00ebrgjegje t\u00eb plot\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu p.sh., n\u00ebse f\u00ebmija merr vesh, dhe e merr vesh shpejt, se me t\u00eb b\u00ebrtiturat e t\u00eb qarat e tij mund t\u00eb realizoj\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb do, ai th\u00ebrret derisa t\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e tij. Dhe sa m\u00eb shpesh p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet kjo, aq m\u00eb inat\u00e7i dhe me vese b\u00ebhet. E nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb ndodh edhe me dob\u00ebsit\u00eb e tjera njer\u00ebzore, q\u00eb me kalimin e viteve zbulohen me p\u00ebrmasat e tyre t\u00eb m\u00ebdha. Themelet e tyre ekzistonin q\u00eb n\u00eb vitet e para f\u00ebminore.<\/p>\n
V\u00ebzhgoni vazhdimisht prirjet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tuaj dhe \u00e7do t\u00eb keqe q\u00eb shihni e shkulni me edukimin e mir\u00eb. Zemr\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve mund ta krahasojm\u00eb me kopsht dhe prind\u00ebrit me kopshtar\u00eb t\u00eb Per\u00ebndis\u00eb, q\u00eb e kan\u00eb detyr\u00eb t\u00eb pastrojn\u00eb me koh\u00eb kopshtin, – zemr\u00ebn f\u00ebminore, – nga bar\u00ebrat e k\u00ebqija t\u00eb m\u00ebkatit dhe egjra e zakoneve t\u00eb k\u00ebqija.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse vonojm\u00eb dhe e keqja rr\u00ebnjoset thell\u00eb; n\u00ebse zemra f\u00ebminore mbushet me vese, at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk do mundemi m\u00eb q\u00eb t’ia dalim mban\u00eb. “Ankohesh, – shkruan sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti, – se biri yt \u00ebsht\u00eb i papermbajtur? Fare leht\u00eb mund ta rregulloje kur ishte f\u00ebmij\u00eb, mund ta m\u00ebsoje me rregull, t’i m\u00ebsoj\u00eb korrekt\u00ebsin\u00eb n\u00eb detyrat e tij, t\u00eb sh\u00ebroj\u00eb s\u00ebmundjen e shpirtit t\u00eb tij. Kur toka ishte ende e p\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr kultivim, at\u00ebhere duhej t’i shkulje gjembat, para se t\u00eb l\u00ebshonin rr\u00ebnj\u00eb t\u00eb forta. Pakujdesia jote e ka fajin, q\u00eb pasionet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs t\u00ebnd tani jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr t’u mposhtur”.<\/p>\n
Nga libri “N\u00ebn\u00eb, kujdes!”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Artikull pedagogjik q\u00eb thekson r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e edukimit moral-fetar t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs q\u00eb nga mosha m\u00eb e vog\u00ebl, duke p\u00ebrdorur shembujt nga shkrimet, et\u00ebrit dhe Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"nentitulli":"","numri":"10 (61)","viti":"1997","muaji":"Tetor","muaji_numer":"10","dita":"","faqet":"[6, 8]","fjale_kyce":"[\"edukim\", \"f\u00ebmij\u00eb\", \"prind\u00ebr\", \"Siracidi\", \"Joan Gojarti\", \"virtyti\", \"m\u00ebkat\", \"mosha foshnjore\", \"pedagogji\", \"familja\"]","permbledhje":"Artikull pedagogjik q\u00eb thekson r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e edukimit moral-fetar t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs q\u00eb nga mosha m\u00eb e vog\u00ebl, duke p\u00ebrdorur shembujt nga shkrimet, et\u00ebrit dhe Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti.","autori":"Nga libri \"N\u00ebn\u00eb, kujdes!\"","kategoria":"Pedagogji\/Familja","kryeredaktor":"Thoma Dhima"},"ngjallja_kategoria":[10397],"ngjallja_autori":[10398],"ngjallja_viti":[10219],"ngjallja_kryeredaktor":[9473],"class_list":["post-84211","ngjallja_article","type-ngjallja_article","status-publish","hentry","ngjallja_kategoria-pedagogji-familja","ngjallja_autori-nga-libri-nene-kujdes","ngjallja_viti-10219","ngjallja_kryeredaktor-thoma-dhima"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n