Kur q\u00eb nga vitet e para t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk kan\u00eb edukator\u00eb, \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebhen? Nd\u00ebrsa disa m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn q\u00eb kur lindin deri sa plaken dhe nuk e arrijn\u00eb, po ata q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb t\u00eb keqen – cil\u00ebn t\u00eb keqe nuk do t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb? Sot, \u00e7do njeri b\u00ebn t\u00eb pamundur\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb arsimoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt me profesione dhe dije, por si do ta kalisi shpirtin e tij drejt virtytit, p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb asnjeri nuk i jep r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n
Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti<\/p>\n
* nr. 6 (45)<\/p>\n
4. Roli i prind\u00ebrve<\/p>\n
a) Prind\u00ebrit si edukator\u00eb t\u00eb krishter\u00eb<\/p>\n
T\u00eb gjith\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e kuptojn\u00eb rolin e tyre p\u00ebr edukimin e p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht ata t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs parashkollore. E konsiderojn\u00eb t\u00eb natyrshme t\u00eb kujdesen p.sh., p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin dhe arsimimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Por, p\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb e edukimit t\u00eb krishter\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm t\u00eb gjith\u00eb.<\/p>\n
T\u00eb shumt\u00eb jan\u00eb prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se p\u00ebrmbushin “detyrimet fetare” kundrejt foshnjave t\u00eb tyre duke i pag\u00ebzuar dhe duke i \u00e7uar n\u00eb Kish\u00eb p\u00ebr Kungimin e Shenjt\u00eb. “Edukimi fetar \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje e priftit dhe Kish\u00ebs”, – thon\u00eb zakonisht. Po kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb. Prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb, me misterin e Martes\u00ebs, b\u00ebhen nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht dhe edukator\u00ebt e natyrsh\u00ebm t\u00eb krishter\u00eb t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n
Ve\u00e7 t\u00eb tjerash, edukimi fetar q\u00eb merret jasht\u00eb familjes \u00ebsht\u00eb plot\u00ebsues. Prifti vet\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ekskluzive edukimin fetar t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe m\u00eb tep\u00ebr t\u00eb atyre t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs parashkollore. Dhe kur kryhet, vepron si z\u00ebvend\u00ebs ose p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsues i prind\u00ebrve, por nuk mund t’i z\u00ebvend\u00ebsoj\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Prifti, sigurisht, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb meshtar brenda shoq\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb krishter\u00eb. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb besimtar\u00ebt marrin pjes\u00eb n\u00eb “mbret\u00ebrin\u00eb prift\u00ebrore” t\u00eb Krishtit, rrjedhimisht edhe prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb, ngjarje kjo q\u00eb i b\u00ebn t\u00eb jen\u00eb edukator\u00eb t\u00eb natyrsh\u00ebm t\u00eb krishter\u00eb t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n
b) Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve<\/p>\n
R\u00ebnd\u00ebsi themelore p\u00ebr edukimin fetar t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb mosh\u00ebs parashkollore n\u00eb familje ka sjellja dhe shembulli i prind\u00ebrve. Prind\u00ebrit mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen edukator\u00eb t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre “m\u00eb Krisht”, kur jetojn\u00eb si besimtar\u00eb p\u00ebrpara syve t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre. Vet\u00ebm at\u00ebher\u00eb me ndihm\u00ebn e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb mbjellin nj\u00eb besim t\u00eb gjall\u00eb n\u00eb shpirtin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n
Ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht, prind\u00ebrit detyrohen t\u00eb marrin pjes\u00eb bashk\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre, n\u00eb shfaqjen e jet\u00ebs dhe besimit t\u00eb krishter\u00eb. Detyrimi i prind\u00ebrve nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht t’i m\u00ebsoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs disa lutje por t’i drejtoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e lutjes. Kjo do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet kur t\u00eb gjith\u00eb s\u00eb bashku, bashkohen n\u00eb nj\u00eb lutje t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. Prandaj, para s\u00eb gjithash duhet koh\u00eb dhe vend lutjeje brenda n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Koh\u00ebn e p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb pjes\u00ebt e dit\u00ebs (m\u00ebngjesi, dreka, darka) dhe veprimet kryesore t\u00eb jet\u00ebs (zgjimi, ngr\u00ebnia, gjumi). T\u00eb shtun\u00ebn n\u00eb dark\u00eb ose para feste t\u00eb madhe mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb lutje e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt familjare. Ikonostasi dhe Tavolina p\u00ebr \u00e7do familje t\u00eb krishter\u00eb jan\u00eb vende lutjeje t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta.<\/p>\n
Jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, Kisha \u00ebsht\u00eb vendi i p\u00ebrcaktuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb lutjeje t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta. N\u00eb mesh\u00ebn e s\u00eb Diel\u00ebs nuk duhet munguar, ve\u00e7se p\u00ebr shkaqe t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. Fundjavat, pushimet, jan\u00eb raste t\u00eb vetme lutjeje dhe n\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhen shkak p\u00ebr braktisjen e Kish\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
Prind\u00ebr dhe f\u00ebmij\u00eb duhet t\u00eb kungohen shpesh. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt e mosh\u00ebs parashkollore duhet t\u00eb kungohen \u00e7do jav\u00eb ose t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb muaj. N\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebt\u00eb Simeoni i Selanikut shkruan: n\u00ebna \u00ebsht\u00eb e detyruar “t\u00eb sjell\u00eb vazhdimisht f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb misteret e kungimit. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebnyra m\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ushqyer dhe rritur me hirin e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb” (PG 155, 236).<\/p>\n
c) Fillimet e p\u00ebrgjithshme:<\/p>\n
Feja tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e mosh\u00ebs parashkollore nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb mund t\u00eb transmetohet me nj\u00eb m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnie tipike, si p.sh. mund t\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb rritur n\u00eb katekiz\u00ebm. P\u00ebrpjekja e jon\u00eb k\u00ebtu, ka si q\u00ebllim t\u00eb udh\u00ebheq\u00eb shpirtin njer\u00ebzor drejt jet\u00ebs shpirt\u00ebrore.<\/p>\n
Duhet t\u00eb kemi parasysh se n\u00ebn tre vje\u00e7 f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr m\u00ebsime fetare. Mundet q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit t’i tregojn\u00eb histori nga jeta e Krishtit dhe t\u00eb familjarizojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt me fjal\u00ebn “Per\u00ebndi”. P\u00ebrvoja e tyre nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb akoma e mjaftueshme p\u00ebr t’i dh\u00ebn\u00eb kuptim k\u00ebsaj fjale. Pas tre vitesh fillon t\u00eb formohet nd\u00ebrgjegja morale dhe fetare. F\u00ebmija nd\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsohet si “duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb” ose “nuk duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb”. At\u00eb q\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb tani f\u00ebmija nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb akoma m\u00ebsimi fetar, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e domosdoshme t’u p\u00ebrgjigjemi pyetjeve t\u00eb tyre. Pyetje q\u00eb i p\u00ebrkasin “prejardhjes” jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme, “kush e krijoi Diellin?” “Pse jan\u00eb aty Yjet?”, “Nga u krijua pema e par\u00eb?” “Si filluan t\u00eb gjitha?” etj. K\u00ebto pyetje tipike b\u00ebhen nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nd\u00ebrmjet mosh\u00ebs 4 dhe 7 vje\u00e7are. P\u00ebrgjigjet q\u00eb do t\u00eb jepen k\u00ebtyre pyetjeve, duhet t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb shpirtin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs q\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilloj\u00eb adhurimin pse jo edhe intelektin e tij.<\/p>\n
M\u00ebsimi fetar n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn parashkollore \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr i rast\u00ebsish\u00ebm, sesa sistematik. Ai nuk duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb veprimtari e pavarur p.sh. nj\u00eb m\u00ebsim n\u00eb dit\u00eb dhe n\u00eb or\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar. Ky edukimi fetar duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i vrullsh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb kombinohet me veprimtarit\u00eb e tjera familjare, si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb puna, t\u00eb ushqyerit, pushimi, d\u00ebfrimi, ushtrimi fizik, shpirt\u00ebror etj. Raste t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta p\u00ebr edukimin fetar n\u00eb familje sjellin diskutimet, festat, ngjarjet e ndryshme, eksursionet, udh\u00ebtimet etj. P\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin q\u00ebllim, duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret muzika, leximi, zbukurimi i sht\u00ebpis\u00eb etj.<\/p>\n
Por, megjith\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e madhe q\u00eb ka besimi, prind\u00ebrit duhet t\u00eb shmangin imponimin e bindjeve t\u00eb tyre fetare tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Me dhun\u00eb dhe detyrim mund t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrohet q\u00ebllimi q\u00eb synojn\u00eb. N\u00ebse nga metodologjia e p\u00ebrgjithshme pedagogjike p\u00ebrjashtohet frika dhe trembja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, edukimi fetar nuk duhet t\u00eb arrij\u00eb n\u00eb frik\u00eb. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmi q\u00eb e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnojn\u00eb vazhdimisht me d\u00ebnime t\u00eb frikshme, n\u00eb t\u00eb cilat Per\u00ebndia identifikohet me xhandarin \u00ebsht\u00eb e natyrshme t\u00eb b\u00ebhet me ankth dhe t\u00eb formoj\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegje mbyt\u00ebse.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrgatiti: Harulla Xhamo<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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