Dikur, nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb, e cila interesohej p\u00ebr edukimin e mir\u00eb t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb saj, vajti t\u00eb k\u00ebshillohej me nj\u00eb pedagog t\u00eb ditur (Pestalozin) p\u00ebr mosh\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn duhej t\u00eb fillonte pun\u00ebn e edukimit.<\/p>\n
– \u00c7’mosh\u00eb ka tani f\u00ebmija juaj?- e pyeti ai.<\/p>\n
– Esht\u00eb gjasht\u00eb muajsh.<\/p>\n
– Zonja ime, tani \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb von\u00eb. Edukimi duhej t\u00eb kishte filluar q\u00eb nga dita e lindjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. “M\u00ebsoje f\u00ebmij\u00ebn q\u00eb kur e fillon rrug\u00ebn dhe s’ka p\u00ebr t’u larguar prej saj as gjer n\u00eb pleq\u00ebri” (Prov. 22,6).<\/p>\n
N\u00ebna iku e habitur p\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjigjen q\u00eb mori, dhe nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e vetme. Shum\u00eb prind\u00ebr mbet\u00ebn t\u00eb habitur dhe pyesnin n\u00ebse ishte nevoj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb filloj\u00eb kaq her\u00ebt vepra e edukimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrgjigjen e jep Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti, me nj\u00eb shembull karakteristik, q\u00eb e tregon n\u00eb vepr\u00ebn e tij “Mbi fodull\u00ebkun dhe si duhet q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb edukojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt”.<\/p>\n
“Thon\u00eb se perlat, kur i nxjerrin nga deti, jan\u00eb si pika uji. N\u00eb qoft\u00eb, pra, se peshkatari i perlave \u00ebsht\u00eb njeri me p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb, sapo ti z\u00ebr\u00eb, i v\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebll\u00ebmb\u00ebn e tij dhe si i rrotullon si duhet, i b\u00ebn krejt t\u00eb rrumbullakta. Mir\u00ebpo, po i la t\u00eb forcohen, nuk u jep dot form\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. T\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb babai dhe n\u00ebna me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre, kur ata jan\u00eb ende t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl”.<\/p>\n
Nga sa u than\u00eb m\u00eb lart, del r\u00ebnd\u00ebsia q\u00eb ka familja p\u00ebr formimin e karakterit dhe t\u00eb personalitetit t\u00eb nj\u00eb qenieje njer\u00ebzore. Temperamenti i trash\u00ebguar ka, natyrisht, nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb theksuar, po drejtimi q\u00eb ai merr, varet n\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqindje t\u00eb madhe nga jeta familjare dhe edukimi q\u00eb ka individi n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e tij. N\u00eb dit\u00ebt, jav\u00ebt dhe muajt e par\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij f\u00ebmija, shum\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebrpara se t\u00eb fitoj\u00eb vet\u00ebdije t\u00eb vetvetes s\u00eb tij si person i ve\u00e7ant\u00eb, p\u00ebrvet\u00ebson dije, ndjenja dhe forma q\u00eb do t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij t\u00eb m\u00ebvonshme. Shum\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebrpara se ai t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t’i shpjegoj\u00eb ato q\u00eb sheh ose ato q\u00eb d\u00ebgjon, b\u00ebhen jetes\u00eb e vetes s\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n
Mir\u00ebpo, \u00e7’\u00ebsht\u00eb edukimi? Esht\u00eb zbatimi sistematik i disa parimeve pedagogjike te f\u00ebmij\u00ebt p\u00ebr formimin e tyre trupor, moral, shpirt\u00ebror e mendor. Do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb shtonim zhvillimin normal kulturor dhe shoq\u00ebror t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, elemente k\u00ebto t\u00eb domosdoshme p\u00ebr nj\u00eb personalitet t\u00eb plot\u00eb. Pra, edukimi q\u00eb ndiqet nga familja, duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb drejtim p\u00ebr lart\u00eb, jo p\u00ebr posht\u00eb; t\u00eb nxis\u00eb autonomin\u00eb dhe lirin\u00eb e individit dhe t’i ofroj\u00eb nj\u00eb ideal, i cili t\u00eb jet\u00eb mb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb parimet tona orthodhokse tradicionale e komb\u00ebtare.<\/p>\n
K\u00ebto jan\u00eb synimet e edukimit dhe familja \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb th\u00ebrritet t’i ver\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
Duhet t\u00eb themi se puna e edukimit, rritja e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve sot, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pun\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, sepse jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb epok\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebkundur, ku sundon nj\u00eb kriz\u00eb vlerash dhe n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi nj\u00eb konfuzion i theksuar. Jemi aq t\u00eb t\u00ebrhequr sentimentalisht nga problemet e vogla e pa r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi dhe mendojm\u00eb shpesh n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb aq negative, sa s’na mbetet koh\u00eb t\u00eb predominoj\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00ebllim m\u00eb i gjer\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb dhe n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb. Prind\u00ebrit lypset t\u00eb disponojn\u00eb dashuri, durim, k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulje, p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi dhe harmoni midis tyre, t\u00eb ken\u00eb parasysh se edukimi i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve kalon p\u00ebrmes edukimit t\u00eb tyre. Shum\u00eb sukses do t\u00eb ken\u00eb prind\u00ebrit n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se do t’u japin f\u00ebmij\u00ebve rastin t’i imitojn\u00eb. Le ta zgjedhin vet\u00eb sjelljen q\u00eb do t\u00eb d\u00ebshironin t\u00eb kishin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn nj\u00ebzet\u00ebvje\u00e7are e le ta p\u00ebrvet\u00ebsojn\u00eb. Le t\u00eb ken\u00eb parasysh se kalor\u00ebsit me p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb “i \u00e7ojn\u00eb kuajt te burimi, por nuk i detyrojn\u00eb t\u00eb pijn\u00eb uj\u00eb”. Mos e impononi, pra, f\u00ebmij\u00ebn. “F\u00ebmija nuk na do as p\u00ebr shok, as p\u00ebr k\u00ebshilltar\u00eb q\u00eb i mbushin vesh\u00ebt me k\u00ebshilla, – thot\u00eb M. Verine, themeluesja e Institutit t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve n\u00eb Paris. – Le t\u00eb jemi thjesht n\u00ebna dhe baballar\u00eb, gj\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte m\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn”.<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmija, e cila rritet n\u00eb nj\u00eb mjedis familjar dashurie e harmonie, do ta ndjej\u00eb veten shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb nga nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb rritur n\u00eb nj\u00eb mjedis negativ. Esht\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb re se prind\u00ebr zem\u00ebrak\u00eb e agresiv\u00eb, nxjerrin f\u00ebmij\u00eb zem\u00ebrak\u00eb e agresiv\u00eb. Prind\u00ebr fisnik\u00eb, transmetojn\u00eb veten n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre. F\u00ebmija q\u00eb shikon prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb ken\u00eb respekt p\u00ebr t\u00eb drejtat e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve rritet duke m\u00ebsuar t\u00eb p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb drejt njer\u00ebzit n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri. Nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb nuk plot\u00ebson n\u00eb familjen e tij nevojat e tij p\u00ebr ndjenja, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb i urritur sentimentalisht, q\u00eb s’di t\u00eb doj\u00eb tjetrin. Kur f\u00ebmija nuk njeh Fen\u00eb, Krisht\u00ebrimin, Orthodhoksin\u00eb, t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb konkrete tek prind\u00ebrit e tij, ai rrezikohet t\u00eb rr\u00ebshqas\u00eb n\u00eb gjithfarsoj rrymash t\u00eb tjera. Le t\u00eb mos harrojm\u00eb, q\u00eb feja e ndihmon f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb fitoj\u00eb nj\u00eb shpres\u00eb brenda dob\u00ebsive dhe dyshimeve q\u00eb ndjen dhe i jep rastin me jet\u00ebn e saj t\u00eb p\u00ebrsos\u00eb e t\u00eb p\u00ebrt\u00ebrit\u00eb vetveten. Edukimi i plot\u00eb fetar p\u00ebrfshin njeriun n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi; trup, shpirt, mendje dhe t\u00eb gjitha ndjenjat. N\u00eb dit\u00ebt tona, i kemi dh\u00ebn\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi vet\u00ebm edukimit t\u00eb trurit dhe k\u00ebshtu kemi m\u00ebnjanuar gjith\u00eb an\u00ebt e tjera t\u00eb njeriut.<\/p>\n
Pedagogjia e sotme “p\u00ebrparimtare” na shpuri n\u00eb nj\u00eb formim t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, q\u00eb i kultivon nj\u00eb narciziz\u00ebm dhe individualiz\u00ebm ekstrem dhe sigurin\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb e dobishme dhe e ligjshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb t’i plot\u00ebsohen t\u00eb gjitha d\u00ebshirat. Duhet theksuar me k\u00ebt\u00eb rast se jan\u00eb shum\u00eb ata prind\u00ebr q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t’u krijojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi e t\u00eb mira l\u00ebndore dhe shpesh, q\u00eb t’ia arrijn\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, i privojn\u00eb nga \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht do t’u duhej m\u00eb tep\u00ebr; i privojn\u00eb nga vet\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e tyre dhe i d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb duke i lejuar t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb shthurur e pa kontroll.<\/p>\n
Mir\u00ebpo, n\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj pik\u00ebpamjeje pedagogjike “p\u00ebrparimtare”, ne, t\u00eb krishter\u00ebt orthodhoks\u00eb, le t\u00eb kemi parasysh pik\u00ebpamjen e Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojartit, i cili porosit q\u00eb t\u00eb mos ushtrohet asnj\u00eb lloj imponimi mbi personalitetin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, por t\u00eb ndihmohet ai p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar individualizmin dhe narcizizmin, t\u00eb ruaj\u00eb vitalitetin dhe hovin e tij, por q\u00eb ta p\u00ebrdor\u00eb n\u00eb dobi t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. F\u00ebmija p\u00ebrvet\u00ebson me vet\u00ebdije apo pa vet\u00ebdije vlerat, rolet e q\u00ebndrimet e atyre q\u00eb ka p\u00ebrreth, m\u00ebson pik\u00ebpamjet e tyre p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit, duke u pjekur apo duke u rritur me dilemat, n\u00eb analogji me q\u00ebndrimin e vlerave t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr mbi t\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Mendojm\u00eb se nj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe tradita jon\u00eb kishtare, q\u00eb ka grumbulluar nj\u00eb thesar t\u00eb madh p\u00ebrvoje e diturie lidhur me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe edukimin e tyre, q\u00eb mund t\u00eb mbuloj\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb t\u00eb madhe nevojat e koh\u00ebs. Si shembull, p\u00ebrmendim librin e proverbave t\u00eb Solomonit dhe n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi mendimin e Et\u00ebrve t\u00eb Kish\u00ebs, q\u00eb botohet her\u00eb pas here n\u00ebp\u00ebr faqet e gazet\u00ebs “Ngjallja”, organ i Kish\u00ebs son\u00eb Orthodhokse Autoqefale. S\u00eb fundi, \u00ebsht\u00eb botuar dhe nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr interesant, me titullin: “Ungjilli si baz\u00eb e jet\u00ebs”, q\u00eb i rekomandohet p\u00ebr ta pasur parasysh \u00e7do familjeje orthodhokse.<\/p>\n
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