{"id":5005,"date":"2017-02-16T12:21:59","date_gmt":"2017-02-16T12:21:59","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2020-04-06T01:04:44","modified_gmt":"2020-04-06T01:04:44","slug":"shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/","title":{"rendered":"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4)"},"content":{"rendered":"

SHEMBULLI I PRIND\u00cbRVE T\u00cb KRISHTER\u00cb<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Motra Magdalen<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Reflektime mbi F\u00ebmij\u00ebt N\u00eb Kish\u00eb Sot<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

    Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti, duke shkruar rreth m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnies p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, thot\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr \u00e7do aspekt p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb: \u201cShembulli \u00ebsht\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka\u201d. P\u00ebr shembull, fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit p\u00ebrdorin dhe m\u00ebnyra e t\u00eb folurit, do t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e t\u00eb folurit personal t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Sh\u00ebn Joani thot\u00eb se n\u00ebse f\u00ebmij\u00ebt do t\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb flasin n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb agresive apo p\u00ebrbuz\u00ebse, ata do t\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb flasin n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb gjithashtu.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Nd\u00ebrsa f\u00ebmij\u00ebt rriten, atyre duhet t\u2019u m\u00ebsohet bindja q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, si nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e natyrshme e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb trajnosh nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb n\u00eb bindje q\u00eb nga fillimi i jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Edhe k\u00ebtu shembulli i prind\u00ebrve \u00ebsht\u00eb i nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsie supreme; n\u00ebse ata nuk tregojn\u00eb bindje ndaj vullnetit t\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrit, f\u00ebmija nuk do ta m\u00ebsoj\u00eb bindjen. Bindja \u00ebsht\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrisht jet\u00ebsore dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb nuk e p\u00ebrfitojn\u00eb at\u00eb kur jan\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl, do ta ken\u00eb m\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb kur t\u00eb rriten. (\u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb t\u00eb rritur egoist t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb n\u00ebse ka qen\u00eb i p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelur gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs.) F\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb veprojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e tyre ose q\u00eb lejohen t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin djall\u00ebzi p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb duan dhe n\u00eb \u00e7astin q\u00eb e duan, nuk mund t\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb duan – sepse bindja \u00ebsht\u00eb shprehje e dashuris\u00eb. Bindja zhvillohet me maturi. P\u00ebr nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb ajo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cVeproj ashtu si m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb\u201d, por p\u00ebr nj\u00eb t\u00eb rritur do t\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cPreferoj vullnetin e tjetrit p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt b\u00ebjn\u00eb detyrat ose luajn\u00eb, jo gjithmon\u00eb k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra jan\u00eb t\u00eb lehta p\u00ebr t\u2019u arritur. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga dob\u00ebsit\u00eb e jet\u00ebs moderne: gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje dhe pun\u00eb ose q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh ndihm\u00eb, tentohen t\u00eb shmangen. Ne d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb m\u00ebsues t\u00eb thon\u00eb se n\u00ebse nj\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebs nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb i suksessh\u00ebm, ai do krijoj\u00eb komplekse. Suksesi dhe g\u00ebzimi i mjaftuesh\u00ebm jan\u00eb t\u00eb nevojsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr inkurajim dhe p\u00ebr qet\u00ebsim – por duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe sfida, nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00eb kapacitetin dhe madje edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar humbjen. \u00cbsht\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrisht e nevojshme t\u00eb m\u00ebsojm\u00eb durimin, q\u00ebndres\u00ebn gjat\u00eb situatave jo t\u00eb rehatshme dhe p\u00ebrul\u00ebsin\u00eb. S\u00ebrish shembulli i prind\u00ebrve \u00ebsht\u00eb i nj\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsie t\u00eb pallogaritshme. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt m\u00ebsojn\u00eb nga reagimi i prind\u00ebrve ndaj s\u00ebmundjes, fatkeq\u00ebsis\u00eb, ndaj v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsive ekonomike e k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

    F\u00ebmij\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb inkurajohen t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb rriturit n\u00eb pun\u00ebt e tyre n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje me mosh\u00ebn e tyre, edhe n\u00ebse ata jan\u00eb fare t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl, edhe n\u00ebse ndihma q\u00eb do t\u00eb japin do t\u00eb jet\u00eb disa her\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb q\u00eb ata ta kryejn\u00eb me p\u00ebrsosm\u00ebri. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, ata m\u00ebsojn\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u2019u duhet t\u00eb marrin dhe gjithashtu m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb mos ken\u00eb egoiz\u00ebm. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt mund t\u00eb vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb pun\u00ebn q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e tyre b\u00ebjn\u00eb p\u00ebr ta.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Nj\u00eb nga tiparet e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb krishter\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jesh zem\u00ebrgjer\u00eb, mikprit\u00ebs dhe i dashur me njer\u00ebzit n\u00eb nevoj\u00eb. K\u00ebto cil\u00ebsi mund t\u00eb rr\u00ebnjosen te f\u00ebmija q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. P.sh. nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e par\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, q\u00eb ata t\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb t\u00eb ndajn\u00eb gj\u00ebrat e tyre dhe t\u00eb marrin pjes\u00eb n\u00eb mikpritjen e miqve n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti, duke folur rreth qortimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, thekson se prindi duhet ta qortoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet tonit t\u00eb z\u00ebrit dhe paralajm\u00ebrimeve. Shkrimet e Shenjta dhe Et\u00ebrit nuk duken t\u00eb jen\u00eb kund\u00ebr d\u00ebnimit trupor. P\u00ebrkundrazi ata na k\u00ebshillojn\u00eb t\u00eb mos jemi shum\u00eb t\u00eb but\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mos i p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelim f\u00ebmij\u00ebt me tepri. Fjal\u00ebt e sh\u00ebn Joanit p\u00ebr qortimin e tyre vendosen n\u00eb kontekstin e dashuris\u00eb prind\u00ebrore. \u201cZem\u00ebrohuni e mos m\u00ebkatoni\u201d (Efes. 4:26). N\u00ebse zem\u00ebrimi \u00ebsht\u00eb i nevojsh\u00ebm, pasi keni b\u00ebr\u00eb qortime n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb sjellshme dhe nuk pat\u00ebt efekt, duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorni zem\u00ebrimin e dashuris\u00eb, t\u00eb motivuar jo nga d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u00eb dominuar, por nga d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebn \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb gabim dhe \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb. Zem\u00ebrimi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb shfaqje p\u00ebr pasionet tona, por nj\u00eb mjet pedagogjik. Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti thot\u00eb: \u201cP\u00ebr aq koh\u00eb q\u00eb shikon frik\u00ebn e qortimit t\u00ebnd t\u00eb ket\u00eb ende efekt mbi f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, p\u00ebrmbaju, sepse natyra jote k\u00ebrkon qet\u00ebsi\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

    N\u00ebse marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije me prindin e tij \u00ebsht\u00eb e ngjizur, dhe n\u00ebse f\u00ebmija beson dhe respekton prind\u00ebrit, disa her\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb shprehje m\u00ebrzitjeje n\u00eb fytyr\u00eb apo nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb e ashp\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb e mjaftueshme p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb se ai po vepron gabim. Sh\u00ebn Siluani, si i ri q\u00eb ishte ra n\u00eb m\u00ebkat dhe i ati i tha m\u00ebngjesin tjet\u00ebr: \u201cKu ishe mbr\u00ebm\u00eb, biri im? Zemra ime ishte e shqet\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr ty\u201d. Fjal\u00ebt e tij t\u00eb \u00ebmbla dep\u00ebrtuan n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e Sh\u00ebn Siluanit. Familja e Sh\u00ebn Siluanit ishte nj\u00eb familje e madhe – babai, n\u00ebna, pes\u00eb djem dhe dy vajza – t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jetonin s\u00eb bashku n\u00eb dashuri. Djemt\u00eb e m\u00ebdhenj punonin me baban\u00eb. Nj\u00eb t\u00eb premte ata ishin jasht\u00eb duke korrur dhe ishte radha e Simeonit (Sh\u00ebn Siluanit) t\u00eb p\u00ebrgatiste drek\u00ebn. Duke harruar q\u00eb ishte e premte, ai gatoi p\u00ebr drek\u00eb gjell\u00eb me mish derri dhe ata t\u00eb gjith\u00eb h\u00ebngr\u00ebn prej saj. Gjasht\u00eb muaj m\u00eb von\u00eb, n\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb feste n\u00eb dim\u00ebr, i ati u kthye nga ai dhe duke buz\u00ebqeshur e plot \u00ebmb\u00eblsi i tha: \u201cBir, a mban mend kur na dhe t\u00eb hanim mish at\u00eb dit\u00eb n\u00eb fush\u00eb? Ishte e premte. Un\u00eb h\u00ebngra, por e di, shijonte si k\u00ebrm\u00eb\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cP\u00ebrse nuk m\u00eb the n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb?\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cNuk doja t\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebndoja, bir\u201d (Murgu n\u00eb Malin e Shenjt\u00eb. Lond\u00ebr Mowbrays, 1973, fq. 10). Kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb but\u00ebsi e rrall\u00eb – kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb rezultat i nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieje t\u00eb thell\u00eb respekti dhe besimi.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Disiplina duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb e arsyeshme dhe e drejt\u00eb. Synimi i disiplinimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u2019i m\u00ebsojm\u00eb ata t\u00eb mos gabojn\u00eb. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb ndjesh\u00ebm ndaj drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe zem\u00ebrohen shum\u00eb kur prind\u00ebrit e tyre kan\u00eb inat t\u00eb dhunsh\u00ebm ndaj tyre p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka fare t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, ose kur prindi afrohet p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb ke vepruar gabim n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb shum\u00eb vulgare. Kur i paralajm\u00ebrojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt para d\u00ebnimit, duhet ta mbajm\u00eb fjal\u00ebn deri n\u00eb limit. Pasi e kemi d\u00ebnuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, duhet t\u00eb shfaqim gatishm\u00ebri p\u00ebr ta falur. Shpesh f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e ndiejn\u00eb se prind\u00ebrit e tyre nuk kan\u00eb dashuri kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb pad\u00ebgjuar. Ne nuk e p\u00eblqejm\u00eb m\u00ebkatin, por e duam m\u00ebkatarin.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Dashuria jon\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebr ta nj\u00eb imazh i dashuris\u00eb s\u00eb Per\u00ebndis\u00eb p\u00ebr njeriun. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se n\u00ebse nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb rr\u00ebfen nj\u00eb vep\u00ebr t\u00eb keqe q\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb, apo shfaq pendes\u00eb, duhet ta zbusim qortimin ose d\u00ebnimin, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje me natyr\u00ebn ton\u00eb psikologjike. Kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ne e harrojm\u00eb m\u00ebkatin ose dukemi sikur e harrojm\u00eb; ne i inkurajojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos fshehin veprat e tyre t\u00eb k\u00ebqija apo \u201ct\u00eb gjejn\u00eb justifikime p\u00ebr m\u00ebkatin\u201d (Ps. 140:4). Ne d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb t\u2019u japim atyre mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb shijojn\u00eb g\u00ebzimin e kthimit t\u00eb djalit plangprish\u00ebs, sepse p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia jon\u00eb me Per\u00ebndin\u00eb. Mashtrimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb karakteristik\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb serioze se nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb zem\u00ebrimesh dhe n\u00ebse ka mashtrim midis f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe prindit, do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Nuk duhet kurr\u00eb ta d\u00ebnojm\u00eb apo ta k\u00ebrc\u00ebnojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, duke p\u00ebrdorur emrin e Krishtit; kurr\u00eb nuk duhet t\u2019u themi f\u00ebmij\u00ebve se Krishti nuk i do ata kur jan\u00eb t\u00eb pabindur, ose kur jan\u00eb t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb t\u2019u themi se i ka d\u00ebnuar Krishti p\u00ebr veprimet e tyre. Duhet t\u00eb kemi autoritet vetjak t\u00eb mjaftuesh\u00ebm pa e kthyer Krishtin n\u00eb nj\u00eb figur\u00eb polici. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt do ta urrejn\u00eb Krishtin n\u00ebse ata vet\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb apo nj\u00eb shok i tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb i s\u00ebmur\u00eb, sepse ata do t\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se Krishti po i d\u00ebnon p\u00ebr m\u00ebkatin ose n\u00ebse ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb pabindur, do t\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se Ai nuk i do ata. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb as kjo: Krishti i do m\u00ebkatar\u00ebt dhe vdiq p\u00ebr ata.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Kur m\u00ebsojm\u00eb disiplin\u00eb dhe bindje te f\u00ebmija, duhet t\u00eb lejojm\u00eb zhvillimin personal dhe zhvillimin e karakterit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Q\u00ebllimi yn\u00eb pedagogjik nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb cop\u00ebtojm\u00eb vullnetin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, apo \u201cta thyejm\u00eb at\u00eb\u201d, si t\u00eb st\u00ebrvitim nj\u00eb kal\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ne n\u00ebnshtrojm\u00eb personalitetin e tij tek i yni. Edhe kur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i vog\u00ebl dhe i duhet t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb t\u00eb veproj\u00eb ashtu si i \u00ebsht\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb, q\u00ebllimi yn\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimtar \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ai t\u00eb jet\u00eb modest dhe t\u00eb ket\u00eb konsiderat\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. N\u00ebse i privojm\u00eb vullnetin f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, ne e privojm\u00eb at\u00eb ndaj di\u00e7kaje q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e nevojshme e rritjes s\u00eb tij si nj\u00eb person i lir\u00eb njer\u00ebzor dhe nj\u00eb arm\u00eb e nevojshme p\u00ebr mbijetes\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekjen e krishter\u00eb. Ne kemi nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr vullnetin ton\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb ecim n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn ton\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos mbetemi plot\u00ebsisht t\u00eb varur nga ambienti i sht\u00ebpis\u00eb – dhe kjo mbivar\u00ebsi shum\u00eb her\u00eb shfaqet n\u00eb momentet kur f\u00ebmija ik\u00ebn nga sht\u00ebpia kur \u00ebsht\u00eb i rritur. Gjithashtu, ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb ndjekim sugjerimet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, edhe kur ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb pedagogjike q\u00eb t\u2019i ndalojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt gjithmon\u00eb – duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb \u201cjep dhe merr\u201d, jo vet\u00ebm nga f\u00ebmija, por edhe nga prind\u00ebrit. Nd\u00ebrsa f\u00ebmij\u00ebt rriten, arsyet tona p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndaluar atyre di\u00e7ka duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb kuptueshme p\u00ebr ata. Mund t\u00eb gjejm\u00eb edhe alternativa ose t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb kompromise. (F\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb vog\u00ebl duhet t\u2019ia largojm\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen ose ta l\u00ebvizim fizikisht nga nj\u00eb objekt i \u201cndaluar\u201d, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb sesa ta qortojm\u00eb at\u00eb vazhdimisht pa i ringjallur atij tundimin). N\u00eb rastin e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije t\u00eb pabindur, do t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb pak e d\u00ebmshme n\u00ebse e lejojm\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb provoj\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr veten nga ajo gj\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron. (Ka raste q\u00eb ndalimi i di\u00e7kaje, ka efekt t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt nga ajo q\u00eb do t\u00eb d\u00ebshironim. F\u00ebmija e d\u00ebshiron at\u00eb gj\u00eb edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb se m\u00eb par\u00eb dhe vazhdon t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00eb). Ndalimi i drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb, kur \u00ebsht\u00eb i nevojsh\u00ebm, do t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb efektiv, n\u00ebse ne themi \u201cpo\u201d n\u00eb mjaft raste t\u00eb tjera – dhe m\u00eb i efektsh\u00ebm do t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00ebse f\u00ebmij\u00ebt kan\u00eb krijuar besim dhe respekt p\u00ebr ne nga p\u00ebrvoja e tyre. Nuk mund t\u00eb presim q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb t\u00eb ndihen gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur me p\u00ebrgjigjet tona ndaj k\u00ebrkesave t\u00eb tyre, por qejfmbetja nuk duhet t\u00eb kthehet n\u00eb nj\u00eb element permanent n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e tyre me ne. Duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulim, por kjo k\u00ebrkon takt dhe lutje. N\u00eb disa raste f\u00ebmij\u00ebve u sugjerohet q\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb bekimin e atit shpirt\u00ebror p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb di\u00e7ka: n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast prindi duhet t\u00eb veproj\u00eb sipas k\u00ebshillave q\u00eb i jan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs nga ati shpirt\u00ebror.<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb ndiejn\u00eb dhe t\u00eb shohin se prind\u00ebrit e tyre jan\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb mendje. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se kur n\u00ebna dhe babai kan\u00eb mosmarr\u00ebveshje midis tyre, duhet ta tregojn\u00eb se ato i zgjidhin n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb paq\u00ebsore. Ata nuk duhet q\u00eb t\u00eb grinden, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00eb syt\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre, ose t\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri – tjetrin dhe kur ndodh kjo, t\u00eb b\u00ebhet me mir\u00ebsjellje. N\u00eb rast se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt i shikojn\u00eb teksa grinden apo kan\u00eb mosmarr\u00ebveshje, ata duhet ta tregojn\u00eb veten e tyre se jan\u00eb pajtuar. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt i ndiejn\u00eb, madje edhe n\u00eb heshtje, tensionet midis prind\u00ebrve dhe vuajn\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb e pamundur t\u00eb pranosh nj\u00eb mendje t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb midis dy qenieve njer\u00ebzore. Mosmarr\u00ebveshjet midis prind\u00ebrve, gjithsesi nuk duhet t\u00eb ndihen si ndarje mes tyre. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb veprojn\u00eb si nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebs midis prind\u00ebrve. T\u00eb qenit n\u00eb nj\u00eb mendje i prind\u00ebrve, \u00ebsht\u00eb jet\u00ebsore p\u00ebr sigurin\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs dhe shembull p\u00ebr martes\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb m\u00ebvonshme.<\/span><\/p>\n

    T\u00eb d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    Kur flasim me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb, duhet dhe t\u2019i d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb ata. Ndodh q\u00eb t\u00eb krishter\u00ebt e rritur u kushtojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb gjysm\u00eb d\u00ebgjimi, dhe kjo, kur ata t\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr Per\u00ebndin\u00eb. Duhet t\u2019i d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha aspektet e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs me v\u00ebmendje dhe lutje, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb frym\u00ebzimi i Per\u00ebndis\u00eb t\u00eb bekoj\u00eb \u00e7do aspekt t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij. Askush nuk do ta sugjeronte q\u00eb f\u00ebmija t\u00eb nd\u00ebrpriste gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt nd\u00ebrsa ata flisnin dhe t\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqte v\u00ebmendjen ndaj k\u00ebrkesave t\u00eb tij, por duhet v\u00ebrtet t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb se sa koh\u00eb dhe energji shpenzohet nga prind\u00ebrit duke folur dhe duke d\u00ebgjuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Edhe kur jemi t\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb, duhet ta p\u00ebrjetojm\u00eb qoft\u00eb dhe nj\u00eb pyetje t\u00eb vog\u00ebl t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs me seriozitet, ta nd\u00ebrpresim pun\u00ebn, sepse mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u2019iu p\u00ebrgjigjur asaj pyetjeje mund t\u00eb mos t\u00eb t\u00eb jepet p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. F\u00ebmija duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb maturie p\u00ebrpara se prindi t\u2019i jap\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje serioze, sepse n\u00ebse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ende kjo maturi tek f\u00ebmija, p\u00ebrgjigjet serioze duhet t\u00eb jepen m\u00eb von\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019i p\u00ebrgjigjemi pyetjeve jet\u00ebsore ashtu si ato shfaqen nga ana e jashtme, si nj\u00eb shkrepje e \u00e7astit, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb \u201ct\u00ebrhiqen\u201d n\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje serioze. Kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb luajtje e nj\u00eb drame: zemra jon\u00eb n\u00eb lutje na flet se si t\u00eb flasim p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Kur i p\u00ebrgjigjemi f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, nuk duhet t\u00eb veprojm\u00eb si disa prind\u00ebr q\u00eb nuk mbajn\u00eb t\u00eb qeshur\u00ebn nga ajo \u00e7ka f\u00ebmija thot\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb bised\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, e gjith\u00eb kjo e p\u00ebrshtatur me stadin e zhvillimit t\u00eb tyre. T\u00eb rriturit gjithashtu, duhet t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb kujdes se si shprehen dhe t\u00eb mos shfaqen se po zbaviten nga m\u00ebnyra se si shprehet f\u00ebmija, sepse kjo mund ta d\u00ebmtoj\u00eb bised\u00ebn. \u201cKa nj\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qeshur\u201d (Ka shum\u00eb raste p\u00ebr t\u00eb qeshur…); por \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar kujdes dhe t\u00eb mos e kthejm\u00eb n\u00eb arg\u00ebtim nj\u00eb pyetje apo koment serioz.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Vaktet e ngr\u00ebnies<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti sugjeron se vaktet e ngr\u00ebnies jan\u00eb nj\u00eb rast i mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb histori dhe shembuj nga Shkrimet gjat\u00eb bised\u00ebs me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Vaktet e ngr\u00ebnies jan\u00eb pjes\u00eb e koh\u00ebs q\u00eb familja t\u00eb jet\u00eb s\u00eb bashku, t\u00eb han\u00eb s\u00eb bashku dhe t\u00eb bisedojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku. Televizori dhe tavolinat e zhurmshme kan\u00eb prishur vaktet e ngr\u00ebnies n\u00eb shum\u00eb familje. Prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb jen\u00eb s\u00eb bashku p\u00ebr vaktet e ngr\u00ebnies sa m\u00eb shpesh t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mundur. M\u00ebngjesi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga vaktet m\u00eb mosp\u00ebrfill\u00ebs, por gjithashtu dhe shum\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm, sepse zhvillohet n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb dit\u00ebs. Gjat\u00eb k\u00ebtyre or\u00ebve pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e familjes vrapojn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhen gati p\u00ebr pun\u00eb ose p\u00ebr shkoll\u00eb. Asgj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb se lutja e m\u00ebngjesit, nuk do ta b\u00ebnte dit\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs m\u00eb p\u00ebrfituese dhe m\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuese ndaj shqet\u00ebsimit, dashuris\u00eb dhe interesit t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve n\u00eb at\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebnte \u00e7donj\u00ebri at\u00eb dit\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse lutja do t\u00eb ishte vet\u00ebm pes\u00eb minuta. Kur f\u00ebmija ik\u00ebn p\u00ebr n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, n\u00ebna mund ta bekoj\u00eb ose t\u00eb lutet: \u201cZot bekoje\u201d; \u201cN\u00ebna e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb qoft\u00eb me ty\u201d. E gjith\u00eb kjo nuk jep vet\u00ebm siguri psikologjike, por \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb mbrojtje kund\u00ebr \u00e7do influence negative q\u00eb f\u00ebmija mund t\u00eb has\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje midis dy bot\u00ebve, sht\u00ebpis\u00eb dhe shkoll\u00ebs.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Sht\u00ebpia dhe shkolla<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    F\u00ebmij\u00ebt shpenzojn\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria e tyre n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb dhe prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb duhet t\u00eb din\u00eb mbar\u00ebvajtjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb. P\u00ebr shembull, ata duhet t\u00eb takojn\u00eb m\u00ebsuesen dhe t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb takimet e prind\u00ebrve n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr t\u00eb forcuar lidhjet midis jet\u00ebs s\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb dhe jet\u00ebs s\u00eb shkoll\u00ebs – t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb tejkalojn\u00eb dy llojet e jet\u00ebve q\u00eb shum\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt orthodhoks\u00eb p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb dhe kjo gj\u00eb nuk ndodh vet\u00ebm te familjet emigrante. Prind\u00ebrit duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm n\u00eb at\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre m\u00ebsojn\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr d\u00ebmtimin e mundsh\u00ebm nga disa keqinterpretime t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta (t\u00eb prezantuara shpesh si \u201cdogma\u201d) n\u00eb fushat e njohuris\u00eb fetare, biologjis\u00eb, historis\u00eb e k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb. Ne nuk do t\u00eb d\u00ebshironim q\u00eb f\u00ebmija yn\u00eb t\u00eb grindet me m\u00ebsuesin apo t\u00eb ket\u00eb frik\u00eb kur d\u00ebgjon ide t\u00eb reja – duhet q\u00eb t\u2019i ndihmojm\u00eb ata dhe t\u00eb jemi n\u00eb mbrojtjen e tyre. \u201cGj\u00ebja m\u00eb e nevojshme\u201d n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha rrethanat, \u00ebsht\u00eb se ne lutemi p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb kur ata jan\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb Per\u00ebndia t\u2019i mbroj\u00eb nga \u00e7do lloj d\u00ebmtimi dhe t\u2019u dhuroj\u00eb atyre rritje n\u00eb dituri, n\u00eb mosh\u00eb dhe n\u00eb hir p\u00ebrpara Per\u00ebndis\u00eb dhe njer\u00ebzve (Lluk. 2:52).<\/span><\/p>\n

    Prind\u00ebrit pyesin veten se si ata mund t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb asimilojn\u00eb ato q\u00eb m\u00ebsojn\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitojn\u00eb aq sa t\u00eb munden nga edukimi i tyre akademik. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, nj\u00eb i rritur me p\u00ebrul\u00ebsin\u00eb e krishter\u00eb mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb njohuri dhe pa u b\u00ebr\u00eb egoist mund t\u2019i p\u00ebrdor\u00eb ato n\u00eb dobi t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. Prind\u00ebrit duhet t\u2019u japin f\u00ebmij\u00ebve koh\u00ebn e tyre p\u00ebr detyrat e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb dhe t\u2019u sigurojn\u00eb nj\u00eb vend t\u00eb qet\u00eb p\u00ebr studim. Prind\u00ebrit mund t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb interesin e tyre n\u00eb l\u00ebnd\u00ebt q\u00eb ata kan\u00eb dhe t\u2019i inkurajojn\u00eb ata t\u00eb ken\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi kur punojn\u00eb p\u00ebr m\u00ebsimet. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb arsye p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur tensionet n\u00eb familje, sepse nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb ka shum\u00eb shqet\u00ebsime n\u00eb familje nuk mund t\u00eb punoj\u00eb me produktivitet – nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb i g\u00ebzuar dhe i sigurt mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

    F\u00ebmij\u00ebt kan\u00eb kapacitete t\u00eb ndryshme dhe aft\u00ebsi t\u00eb ndryshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb thithur informacionin e ri. Ka raste q\u00eb nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb merr vler\u00ebsim t\u00eb ul\u00ebt n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, kur rritet b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb intelektual i thell\u00eb dhe shum\u00eb m\u00eb i aft\u00eb se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt q\u00eb asimiluan l\u00ebnd\u00ebt n\u00eb stadin e k\u00ebrkuar nga sistemi shkollor.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Nj\u00eb nga problemet e sistemit shkollor bashk\u00ebkohor \u00ebsht\u00eb se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt m\u00ebsohen t\u00eb konkurrojn\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Rezultatet e provimeve gjykohen m\u00eb pak se rezultati i pjes\u00ebmarrjes n\u00eb klas\u00eb dhe kjo kultivon krenari. T\u00eb rriturit duhet t\u00eb shfaqin k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi ose krenari n\u00ebse f\u00ebmija ka b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e tij dhe jo q\u00eb ai t\u00eb godas\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. F\u00ebmija q\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn dhe q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb s\u00ebrish i dob\u00ebt n\u00eb m\u00ebsime, nuk duhet q\u00eb t\u00eb ndihet i pak\u00ebnaqur. Aft\u00ebsia intelektuale, mbi t\u00eb gjitha, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga shum\u00eb dhuratat natyrale t\u00eb dh\u00ebna nga Per\u00ebndia. N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb i inkurajon njer\u00ebzit me aft\u00ebsi intelektuale t\u00eb jen\u00eb krenar\u00eb dhe t\u2019i konsiderojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt si inferior\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb kan\u00eb mund\u00ebsi zgjedhjeje p\u00ebr shkoll\u00ebn q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ndjek\u00eb f\u00ebmija i tyre, duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb nj\u00eb shkoll\u00eb ku atmosfera morale edhe standardet edukuese jan\u00eb t\u00eb mira, edhe pse ndjekja e k\u00ebsaj shkolle do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ka m\u00eb tep\u00ebr v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi financiare.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb disa her\u00eb pyesin veten se cila shkoll\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e mir\u00eb, shkolla q\u00eb ka djem dhe vajza bashk\u00eb apo shkolla q\u00eb ka vet\u00ebm nj\u00ebr\u00ebn gjini. Disa her\u00eb prind\u00ebrit nuk kan\u00eb mund\u00ebsi zgjedhjeje, por kur ajo ekziston, ato gj\u00ebra q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb merren parasysh jan\u00eb: cil\u00ebsia e shkoll\u00ebs, standardi i edukimit, shoq\u00ebria q\u00eb f\u00ebmija do t\u00eb ket\u00eb dhe q\u00ebndrimi i m\u00ebsueses kujdestare. K\u00ebto kritere jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme sesa a do t\u00eb jet\u00eb shkolla me djem dhe vajza bashk\u00eb apo vet\u00ebm me nj\u00ebr\u00ebn gjini. T\u00eb gjitha gj\u00ebrat e tjera jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitojn\u00eb nga shkollat q\u00eb kan\u00eb djem dhe vajza bashk\u00eb. N\u00eb familjet q\u00eb jan\u00eb me v\u00ebllez\u00ebr dhe motra, p\u00ebrvoja e v\u00ebllaz\u00ebrimit me seksin e kund\u00ebrt p\u00ebrfitohet q\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, por kur n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb mund\u00ebsia, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e vlefshme t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitohet kjo eksperienc\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re.<\/span><\/p>\n

    N\u00eb fund t\u00eb vitit shkollor, prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb shpesh t\u00eb lodhur, por edhe pse mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb k\u00ebshtu, \u00ebsht\u00eb keq kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt kan\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn se prind\u00ebrit e tyre jan\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur q\u00eb ata t\u00eb jen\u00eb s\u00ebrish n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb m\u00ebnyre kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cMe zor po pres t\u00eb jen\u00eb larg meje\u201d. Ne duhet t\u00eb ndiejm\u00eb dhe t\u00eb tregojm\u00eb se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb dashur dhe t\u00eb mir\u00ebpritur n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.<\/span><\/p>\n

    T\u00eb v\u00ebzhgosh shqisat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

   Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti k\u00ebshillon prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb v\u00ebzhgojn\u00eb shqisat e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre: \u00e7far\u00eb shikojn\u00eb, \u00e7far\u00eb d\u00ebgjojn\u00eb e k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb. Nuk mund t\u2019u vendosim prita f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb, dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb e pamundur n\u00eb shekullin XX t\u00eb sigurohemi q\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb ata do t\u00eb takojn\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e bukur dhe frym\u00ebzuese. Por kemi fjal\u00ebt e shenjtor\u00ebve n\u00eb mendje p\u00ebr ato gj\u00ebra q\u00eb u ofrojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve brenda n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Sh\u00ebn Joani sugjeron gjithashtu q\u00eb t\u2019u japim f\u00ebmij\u00ebve mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb shqisat e tyre t\u00eb ndikuar nga bukuria natyrale: nga pamjet e k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb. Kur planifikojm\u00eb ekskursione dhe pushime, t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqemi t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshijm\u00eb vizita n\u00eb disa vende me natyr\u00eb t\u00eb bukur. Mund t\u00eb kemi gj\u00ebra natyrale n\u00eb sht\u00ebpit\u00eb tona. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt shpesh vrasin mendjen me iden\u00eb e Per\u00ebndis\u00eb si Krijues, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb rrethuar gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs nga gj\u00ebra t\u00eb b\u00ebra nga njeriu dhe k\u00ebshtu tek ata lind pyetja se ku \u00ebsht\u00eb Per\u00ebndia n\u00eb procesin e krijimit.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

SHEMBULLI I PRIND\u00cbRVE T\u00cb KRISHTER\u00cb Motra Magdalen Reflektime mbi F\u00ebmij\u00ebt N\u00eb Kish\u00eb Sot       Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti, duke shkruar rreth m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnies p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, thot\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr \u00e7do aspekt p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb: \u201cShembulli \u00ebsht\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka\u201d. P\u00ebr shembull, fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit p\u00ebrdorin dhe m\u00ebnyra e t\u00eb folurit, do t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e t\u00eb folurit personal t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Sh\u00ebn<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"pagelayer_contact_templates":[],"_pagelayer_content":"","inline_featured_image":false,"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[112],"tags":[346,609],"class_list":["post-5005","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-materiale-shpirterore-d72","tag-familja-mat-shpirterore","tag-materiale-shpirterore"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nShembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4) - Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4) - Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"SHEMBULLI I PRIND\u00cbRVE T\u00cb KRISHTER\u00cb Motra Magdalen Reflektime mbi F\u00ebmij\u00ebt N\u00eb Kish\u00eb Sot       Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti, duke shkruar rreth m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnies p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, thot\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr \u00e7do aspekt p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb: \u201cShembulli \u00ebsht\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka\u201d. P\u00ebr shembull, fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit p\u00ebrdorin dhe m\u00ebnyra e t\u00eb folurit, do t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e t\u00eb folurit personal t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Sh\u00ebn\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/koash1991\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2017-02-16T12:21:59+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2020-04-06T01:04:44+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/LogoLastALb-200.png\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"200\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"172\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/png\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Kisha Orthodhokse\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Kisha Orthodhokse\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"22 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"Kisha Orthodhokse\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#\/schema\/person\/0c387634a7063ac612d7ed9ce71c7e86\"},\"headline\":\"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4)\",\"datePublished\":\"2017-02-16T12:21:59+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2020-04-06T01:04:44+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/\"},\"wordCount\":4355,\"commentCount\":0,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#organization\"},\"keywords\":[\"Familja\/Mat.Shpirterore\",\"Materiale Shpirterore\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Materiale Shpirt\u00ebrore\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/\",\"name\":\"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4) - Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2017-02-16T12:21:59+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2020-04-06T01:04:44+00:00\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4)\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/\",\"name\":\"Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb\",\"description\":\"Fqja Zyrtare e Kish\u00ebs Orthodhokse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb me lajmet edhe informacionet zyrtare p\u00ebr struktur\u00ebn edhe veprimtarin e saj.\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#organization\",\"name\":\"Kisha Orthodhokse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/albania.jpeg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/albania.jpeg\",\"width\":540,\"height\":540,\"caption\":\"Kisha Orthodhokse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\"},\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/koash1991\"]},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#\/schema\/person\/0c387634a7063ac612d7ed9ce71c7e86\",\"name\":\"Kisha Orthodhokse\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/596e7c417251e30f2fbb9c00e026fce61a695a00e51c889caded71c96cbbdde5?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/596e7c417251e30f2fbb9c00e026fce61a695a00e51c889caded71c96cbbdde5?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/596e7c417251e30f2fbb9c00e026fce61a695a00e51c889caded71c96cbbdde5?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Kisha Orthodhokse\"}}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4) - Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4) - Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb","og_description":"SHEMBULLI I PRIND\u00cbRVE T\u00cb KRISHTER\u00cb Motra Magdalen Reflektime mbi F\u00ebmij\u00ebt N\u00eb Kish\u00eb Sot       Sh\u00ebn Joan Gojarti, duke shkruar rreth m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebnies p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, thot\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr \u00e7do aspekt p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit e krishter\u00eb: \u201cShembulli \u00ebsht\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka\u201d. P\u00ebr shembull, fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit p\u00ebrdorin dhe m\u00ebnyra e t\u00eb folurit, do t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn e t\u00eb folurit personal t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Sh\u00ebn","og_url":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/","og_site_name":"Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/koash1991","article_published_time":"2017-02-16T12:21:59+00:00","article_modified_time":"2020-04-06T01:04:44+00:00","og_image":[{"width":200,"height":172,"url":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/LogoLastALb-200.png","type":"image\/png"}],"author":"Kisha Orthodhokse","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Kisha Orthodhokse","Est. reading time":"22 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/"},"author":{"name":"Kisha Orthodhokse","@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#\/schema\/person\/0c387634a7063ac612d7ed9ce71c7e86"},"headline":"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4)","datePublished":"2017-02-16T12:21:59+00:00","dateModified":"2020-04-06T01:04:44+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/"},"wordCount":4355,"commentCount":0,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#organization"},"keywords":["Familja\/Mat.Shpirterore","Materiale Shpirterore"],"articleSection":["Materiale Shpirt\u00ebrore"],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/","url":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/","name":"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4) - Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#website"},"datePublished":"2017-02-16T12:21:59+00:00","dateModified":"2020-04-06T01:04:44+00:00","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/2017\/02\/16\/shembulli-i-prinderve-te-krishtere\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Shembulli i prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb krishter\u00eb (4)"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#website","url":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/","name":"Kisha Orthodh\u03bfkse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb","description":"Fqja Zyrtare e Kish\u00ebs Orthodhokse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb me lajmet edhe informacionet zyrtare p\u00ebr struktur\u00ebn edhe veprimtarin e saj.","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#organization","name":"Kisha Orthodhokse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb","url":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/albania.jpeg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/albania.jpeg","width":540,"height":540,"caption":"Kisha Orthodhokse Autoqefale e Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/koash1991"]},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/#\/schema\/person\/0c387634a7063ac612d7ed9ce71c7e86","name":"Kisha Orthodhokse","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/596e7c417251e30f2fbb9c00e026fce61a695a00e51c889caded71c96cbbdde5?s=96&d=mm&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/596e7c417251e30f2fbb9c00e026fce61a695a00e51c889caded71c96cbbdde5?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/596e7c417251e30f2fbb9c00e026fce61a695a00e51c889caded71c96cbbdde5?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Kisha Orthodhokse"}}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5005","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5005"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5005\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14473,"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5005\/revisions\/14473"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5005"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5005"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/orthodoxalbania.org\/2020\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5005"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}